need help asap

burgermasters

I have had a massive falling out with my older brother about two years back, small
Backround:

We have never got along he is almost 5 years older than me he used to beat me badly as a child he once broke my nose for little or no reason on another occasion he smashed a mug full of scalding tea into my face because I fixed a tv that he said I couldn't, (I was 12) two years back he tried to use my son behind my back who lives with his mother by the way, because he wanted to put in a dodgy claim so it was just for money, understandable I blew my top and gave him a piece of my mind, now I know he is going through a really rough time emotional and mental with his partner and kids and I can't help feeling bad about it and feel like calling him even though I tried last year and he said he wants nothing to do with me, I can't help but want to help and support him? What do I do here??? Real advice needed people. Thanks for reading and opinions and so on.

Merkin

I think for sheer self preservation it is best that you don't get too involved. Time and again he has shown himself to be volatile, selfish and violent so why would anything change just because he is down on his luck? You sound like a nice person but he has explicitly said he doesn't want you in his life so I would leave him to it, for our own sake.

Mozzeltoff

I agree with Merkin, OP. You're better off having nothing to do with him. Myself and my brother have a similar relationship as the one you have with your brother. He too is down on his luck and as much as I do care for him and want to help him out I know it's only going to be thrown back in my face and I'll get no thanks for it. I have tried but I only got accused for meddling As I said you're better off not going near him. He's said he wants nothing to do with you and I think you're better off in the long run.

lukesmom

No I believe you should try and mend things even though he was in the wrong you are brothers. I would contact him to offer support and if he throws it back in your face at least you have tried. Life is too short to not give it another chance. Just my opinion.

burgermasters

Thanks for the advice guys, my head tells me to leave well enough alone as does my gut? But my heart tells me to contact him., I don't think I have ever been so confused if my life?

burgermasters

Thanks for the advice guys, my head tells me to leave well enough alone as does my gut? But my heart tells me to contact him., I don't think I have ever been so confused if my life?