End a relationship.

LegacyUser

Hi boardies, much appreciated your advice in advance.

My boyfriend is from Canada and he is coming over to see me in 2 weeks time. He has paid for his tickets. I don't love him anymore and I want to break up but I can't travel over there to break up with him face to face. Should I break up with him over the phone before he comes over here or wait until he is here and tell him that I don't want to be with him anymore? It's rude breaking up over the phone but is it the best way in my situation?

Dixie Chick

Yes, definitely. Then he can maybe recoup some of the flight cost, or come to Ireland and spend in holidaying somewhere else away from you. But presently he is getting on a flight thinking he is going to spend time with his girlfriend and what a land he will get

hullaballoo

Tell him now because he might be able to get some of the money back for his flights.

It isn't rude to break up with someone who lives in a different continent over the phone. If he lived down the road, it might be different. What would be rude (actually, extremely rude) is having him travel all the way here only to break up with him. I would be indescribably annoyed by that sort of thing.

If it was even a nearby country I would do the travel thing and then break up but canada? No, phone is ok for this
He can change his plans or try refund his flights or anything if you do it now

Merkin

You need to get on to Facetime or Skype asap and break it off. Having him travel all that way and then to dump him would be awful.

Legs.Eleven

.....and you need to do it asap. I dumped an ex in the States by phone (pre Skype); it was the only way. Imagine the awkwardness for you both (particularly him) to have to spend 2 weeks here.



Good luck, OP.