Bit confused where to go. (new girl)

LegacyUser

Right, we'll go unregistered for this.

I left a long term relationship of two years about 11 months ago. First proper long term girlfriend where we kind of just ended up going out with each other. There was no dates so to speak or any of this pre entering a relationship stuff if you know what I mean. So it's kinda left me in the dark regarding regarding where to go early on in a potential relationship.

So go to three weeks ago. Meet this lovely girl who's a friend of a friend's friend if that makes any sense. She's awfully pretty and intelligent and we seemed to get along really well. So we've been talking quite a bit over facebook and in person over the last three weeks, asked her out for coffee during the week and went to the pub later, which went quite well. We spent aaages talking to each other that night, lots of eye contact between us which I think is a good thing, body language between us seemed right and she was wanting to know if I got home okay. Friends are now starting to wonder if there is something going on. However, it's not really progressed beyond that. So, potentially looking good I *think*

Anyway, I'm kinda guessing she's probably waiting on me to make any potential move or am I mixing things up here. I'm awfully nervous even though I may give the appearance of being confident!

Tokyo

I'm not sure where the "issue" is. You've moved well on from your last relationship, so that's good. You met a girl that you enjoyed talking to and seems to enjoy talking to you, so that's good. You went out for coffee and drinks together, alone, and that went well. If you've heard that friends are talking about you two, then chances are she has too, and hasn't denied it, so that;s all good. I don't see the problem

I'm assuming that you are still texting this girl and all is good, it seems to me like the next obvious step is to ask her out to do something, dinner, movie, drinks, whatever you think fits the situation. I'm guessing that she'll happily go along with it.

Tasden

Previous poster said all I was gonna say! Ask her for drinks or something and she'll prob say yes- go from there, it all sounds good. Enjoy it!

stargazer 68

Tasden wrote: »

Previous poster said all I was gonna say! Ask her for drinks or something and she'll prob say yes- go from there, it all sounds good. Enjoy it!

This! Stop overthinking things OP. Its Friday - call her and ask her out for dinner or a drink tomorrow night or tonight if she is free!

Oh the excitement of new lurve! :P

seenitall

Hi OP,

LittleBitLost wrote: »

Anyway, I'm kinda guessing she's probably waiting on me to make any potential move or am I mixing things up here. I'm awfully nervous even though I may give the appearance of being confident!

yes, she probably is waiting for you to make a move now. You've already been on a date, so the next date should, everything going well, see the two of you getting a bit more up close and personal, if you know what I mean.

I suppose if you're not very experienced with this starting blocks stage, you could always start very slowly, e.g. a quick kiss on the lips when parting ways. And then build on from there the next time you see her, for example, a quick kiss on the lips when you meet up... and then maybe at some point during the date, and maybe not so quick ... etc, etc. That's how physical contact gets built up.

Best wishes.

beks101

Ask her out on a date, flirt your ass off and lob the gob.

Job done

Tokyo

beks101 wrote: »

Ask her out on a date, flirt your ass off and lob the gob.

Job done

Job's only beginning if he plays his cards right

LegacyUser

Just a wee update.


Made a move (it's not easy to break the ice haha) after we had been on a soberish evening out with a few friends and arranged a proper date the Saturday after for where we went for coffee for a few hours. Finishing that we both agreed that we'd see each other again. All is well I think

Big Bag of Chips

Glad to hear it, OP.

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