Sexual Attraction and dating

lufties

I've been with a good few girls in my life(not bragging honestly), but i've noticed a trend, with the last few i've met i like them initially but lose interest after a few weeks, i can't help it and it drives me mad as they are perfectly nice girls but i lose attraction. I'm definately not gay anyway thats for sure. one thing though, most of the ladies have been asian so perhaps i'm just not into the Asian race, but that would be a massive generalisation.

Basically do any other men out there that find so hard to meet a lady that floats their boat? or perhaps my standards/expectations are too high.

Sauve

Mod

Hi OP, I have moved your thread to this forum as I think you will get better responses here.

Regards,
Sauve.

lufties

Sauve wrote: »

Mod

Hi OP, I have moved your thread to this forum as I think you will get better responses here.

Regards,
Sauve.

cheers, sorry wasn't sure where to put it lol.:D

koremon

I personally don't think it has to do with them being Asian or African.
You just didn't meet the right person. And who is the right person? It is something you youself can only find out.

lufties

koremon wrote: »

I personally don't think it has to do with them being Asian or African.
You just didn't meet the right person. And who is the right person? It is something you youself can only find out.[/

I think i'm more attracted to western women in all honesty, but its annoying when you meet a lass you like and after 2 months you dont even want to sleep with her, surely thats not normal?

Emme

OP, maybe you find these women initially very attractive which is fine but after a few months the attraction fades because you have very little in common otherwise.

You could continue dating girls like this for a few weeks/months until the attraction fades and then move on to the next one but if you want something more meaningful you might have to take a different approach.

When you meet a girl get to know her and find out if you have other things in common that draw you to her apart from her looks.

Apparently opposites attract initially, but the people who stay together usually have a few things in common.

wirelessdude01

Maybe are the women just dull to you as in no mutual interests or they are just too generic to you(all look the same).

lufties

Emme wrote: »

OP, maybe you find these women initially very attractive which is fine but after a few months the attraction fades because you have very little in common otherwise.

You could continue dating girls like this for a few weeks/months until the attraction fades and then move on to the next one but if you want something more meaningful you might have to take a different approach.

When you meet a girl get to know her and find out if you have other things in common that draw you to her apart from her looks.

Apparently opposites attract initially, but the people who stay together usually have a few things in common.

Ya I think you are right, I seemed to have met a few women lately(mainly online dating) with emotional baggage, which is not attractive. It feels like I meet the desperate ones to put it bluntly.

chubnut

LMAO emotional baggage ? what, with women online dating !! Clearly the conflict here is one of expectation. You cannot go into a whorehouse expecting to meet a virgin so as the saying goes " you get what you pay for in life" A ship of dreams is not only rare but seldom cruises in murky waters. The choice ? Sail in the ocean with hope or resigned riverboat baggage class.

lufties

chubnut wrote: »

LMAO emotional baggage ? what, with women online dating !! Clearly the conflict here is one of expectation. You cannot go into a whorehouse expecting to meet a virgin so as the saying goes " you get what you pay for in life" A ship of dreams is not only rare but seldom cruises in murky waters. The choice ? Sail in the ocean with hope or resigned riverboat baggage class.

what the hell are you on about, jesus thats the most condescending post i've read on a while. going on your logic if a woman goes online looking for a partner, it instantly means she's a fruitcake

chubnut

lufties wrote: »

what the hell are you on about, jesus thats the most condescending post i've read on a while. going on your logic if a woman goes online looking for a partner, it instantly means she's a fruitcake

Your words and experience I believe.

lufties

chubnut wrote: »

Your words and experience I believe.

no, not my words..well they are in so far as describing your logic, have a read of my post again, and if your still not sure, perhaps read it a third time and so on.

chubnut

"I seemed to have met a few women lately(mainly online dating) with emotional baggage, which is not attractive. It feels like I meet the desperate ones to put it bluntly. "

Your words exactly old chum !! Maybe thats your problem, you see things differently to the outside world. You asked for advice and I gave it, of course you dont need to take it but if you sit down with a cup of tea and be totally honest with yourself you know I'm right.

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