Does he want my as a friend/just see how it goes for me OR a lover/have sex? CONFUSED

HHP

What does this man want with me?

If you and your former teacher take a coffee in your apartment, lunchtime, and now decided to meet it again soon (we haven't said taking a coffee or something, just meet.) - what would you think?

This teacher always hugged me in school in his office - close twoarmed hugs, cheek to cheek. Also often placed a hand on my waist as respons when I placed a hand on his shoulder or after hugs. Often he hugs several times in a row. And he often takes my hand/hands after hugs. Smiling. He did the same thing after the coffee in the apartment - 3 hugs in a row, took hands. I answered, as always. Then he said you two could meet here again a day when there's more time. We have decided to meet again in 2 weeks.

We share the same interests in specific subjects (that's why we talked so often in his office). He has said several times I'm his best student ever, I'm not like everyone else, that I enrich him etc. Has comment my body like "there's no many gram too much there" smiling.

I'm 19, he's 55+ and married, has adopted young children.
It's in Sweden, we're both swedish.
I graduated in June, in the apartment was first time we two meet after graduation.

Is he friendly, fatherly, would never cheat on his wife or flirty, hoping to end up in bed and want an affair?

HHP

More background info if it helps to answer.... Please answer because I'm really confused over this.

I had him as a teacher two years as total. The first year he was just a "normal" teacher to me, he often said my work was good etc., but nothing flirty or so. In the autumn 2012 he asked me if I wanted to read his courses (which we should have next year) before the others. I said I wanted that. Reading courses before the others led to more alone time with him plus we had contact by e-mail (his private e-mail) during that summer, e-mailed a lot about random stuff, not just school. In the autumn I also got him as my tutor for project work.

All this led to some alone meetings + we discovered that we've got a lot of common interests in specific subjects. Which led to a lot of meetings. He started to hug me etc. During the winter/beginning of spring and since then we talked very often, like almost every week, for some time in his office. And he always hugged me etc. - but only when the door to his office was closed, never in the corridor or something, and even for instance when I just went to ask him a question in like 5 minutes or handed in an exam at his office.
We also often read and comment poetry, sayings etc together at his office. (Which he has said him and his wife used to do before they had kids...).
He also gave me a present once, a gift check on books - after I said no when he said he wanted to give me money because I let him copy some pages from a book I've got.
Another time wanted us to stay and talk despite the fact that the firealarm went on, which we did - and he joked a little about how "hot" it was in the room.

Then during the spring it escalate, I think - with lots of hugs in a row, hand on waist often as respons for intance if I placed a hand on his shoulder, he also said several times we should keep contact after I graduated, he took my hands etc.
And for instance one time about 5-6 hugs and we both almost started to "laugh" about it. He got red in his face, smiled very big, bit his lip etc.
He also often/or at least sometimes places his hand around his belt after hugging or between hugs? A bit werid, or it's nothing.

The last time we meet at his office, some days before the graduation, I asked him if he wanted to take a coffee or something some time. He said he wanted that, smiling a lot. That "meeting" in his office were about 5-10 minutes maybe, and almost during the whole time he held my hand/hands - which was a bit weird? and hugged me as usual, close. I answered, as always.

And well... then we e-mailed a little and decided to take the coffee in the autumn. At first we said in the city. Then when the autumn closed in on I said he could choose if he wanted to take the coffee at my apartment or in the city. (I had before that told him that I've moved to my apartment (before I lived with parents)).

What do you think???

SV

I think that if you think there's anything 'friendly' at all about this man then you'd be a bit naive.
He's out for an affair.
It's quite obvious from the signs you've spoke about that he's sexually interested in you. If he was giving off these signs and wanted it to be purely platonic he wouldn't be agreeing to meet up constantly or to meeting you in your apartment.

Also, holding hands and hugging? More than a little inappropriate for a teacher/student relationship I'd say. Seems like you've led him on quite a bit unless you want him to begin an affair aswell.

YbFocus

I very much think this is total bs.
A swedish student coming into an irish site for info with perfect English.
Nope no buy here.

Edit: just googled the first paragraph and it's all over the Internet!

Meauldsegosha

OP as you were told on your other thread it does seem he want to have an affair with you. If you want to have an affair with him that's your choice. Don't expect people to validate that choice.

wirelessdude01

How many times are you going to post the same thread?

Obliq

OP if you are not a troll, then you have some disturbing fantasies about a much older man. Go get some professional advice as it looks like you're setting yourself up to be the willing victim of a seriously creepy man - perhaps you're even getting off on the thought? Not healthy at all, which ever way you look at this.

Emme

YbFocus wrote: »

I very much think this is total bs.
A swedish student coming into an irish site for info with perfect English.
Nope no buy here.

Edit: just googled the first paragraph and it's all over the Internet!

Is this trolling nonsense going to be locked?

Ickle Magoo

OP, I'm going to lock this in the hope that one of the many other threads you posted on this across the internet will get you the advice you want - please DO NOT repost.

wirelessdude01, YbFocus, Emme, Obliq,

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