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  • 20-10-2013 6:45pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, so I have started seeing a guy I met on line, but as it happens already vaguely know. Anyway, I know he still has his profile up, but don't know how often or if he goes on. I closed my account a good while ago, and have no interest going back there. And to be honest I wasn't that interested in whether he still had a profile up until I got to know him better, and now that I do, I would like it if he took it down, if it's still there.
    Advice ????


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  • #2
    wirelessdude01
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,429 ✭✭✭wirelessdude01


    Any long have you been seeing him? Have you had the chat re being exclusive?


  • #3
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    Have you asked him OP why he is still on the site? Sometimes people make friends on these dating sites and they like to keep in touch. The only way you'll find out really is if you ask him straight out yourself, without of course sounding confrontational about it.


  • #4
    maria34
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 339 ✭✭maria34


    Czarcasm wrote: »
    Have you asked him OP why he is still on the site? Sometimes people make friends on these dating sites and they like to keep in touch. The only way you'll find out really is if you ask him straight out yourself, without of course sounding confrontational about it.

    If u make friends with someone u change your personal contact details? If not then its not that good friend really.


  • #5
    castaway_lady
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 268 ✭✭castaway_lady


    google the name of the site plus the name he went under and you might get a result there


  • #6
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    I think if you are sleeping with someone that you are entitled to know if he is dating others.


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  • #7
    Meauldsegosha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,607 ✭✭✭Meauldsegosha


    maria34 wrote: »
    If u make friends with someone u change your personal contact details? If not then its not that good friend really.

    Not necessarily. Some people don't like to exchange their personal email address or phone numbers, especially if they only want to chat and not actually meet anyone.

    OP you have to talk to the guy about his profile. I met my boyfriend on-line when we became official we spoke about deleting our profiles. If you are in a relationship with him you shouldn't be embarrassed or worried about asking him.


  • #8
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    maria34 wrote: »
    If u make friends with someone u change your personal contact details? If not then its not that good friend really.


    If I understand you correctly Maria you're suggesting that when you make friends with people on a dating site, then you begin a relationship with someone, you should change your contact details and close your account?

    I've been a member of an online dating site since before online dating was cool (I was actually one of the original Admin/Owners of the site), and I've met plenty of people online and have some great friendships out of it, we all meet in the chatroom like a bunch of regulars (it's not just spending your evening flipping through profiles of cute girls and guys), and we've all stayed in contact the last 15 years or so.

    Some of us are in relationships (I'm married nearly ten years myself, we were living together for seven years before that), and some of us are still single, but we're all good friends, and maybe that's why the OP's boyfriend hasn't felt the need to close his account, as he doesn't see any harm in it. He knows the OP can see he still has one like, it's not as if he's actively hiding it!

    That's why I suggested the OP ask her boyfriend what's the story, to put her own fears at rest. Online dating CAN be great, but as the OP in her relationship shows - sometimes it can be an absolute nightmare when one party doesn't trust the other enough to actually TALK to them OFFLINE, as in face to bloody face, like a REAL relationship!


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