Wedding in New York

starjen

Hi all

My fiance and I are thinking of getting married in New York. Estimating that there will be no more than 20 guests attending. Have fallen in love with the Shakespeare Garden in Central Park.

Just wondering if anyone has experience of getting married in NYC and what did you do for the afters - meal, etc?

Considering Hawaii and Florida for the honeymoon..have been to Florida a good few times but would love any info/tips on Hawaii

Thanks in advance

carnagesri

I am getting married on the 23rd November in Central Park. I will let you know how we get on over there. It is just the 2 of us. We are going out on a yacht in New York harbour that evening for our wedding meal. We have also hired a 1950's Yellow Taxi as our wedding transportation. Also we are going on a carraige ride in Central park for an hour.

sashafierce

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amdublin

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I would have thought it would be obvious that it will cost way way less than 20k

Basically it's equivalent to a cost of a honeymoon and throw in wedding, dinner, boat trip etc. (I'd say about 1k max for all that..)

Cost of NY hol - 3/4k
Total 5k...

sashafierce

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amdublin

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But it's not a reception. It's just the 2 of them.

MagicMarker

Since when is a normal Irish wedding 20 grand? I realize some morons pay that kind of money but I wouldn't have though that was the norm at all.

sashafierce

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womandriver

MagicMarker wrote: »

Since when is a normal Irish wedding 20 grand? I realize some morons pay that kind of money but I wouldn't have though that was the norm at all.

Why are they morons? It's a couple's own business what they want to spend and not for someone else to decide they're morons if you don't agree with it. Each to their own.

Gatica

MagicMarker wrote: »

I realize some morons pay that kind of money but I wouldn't have though that was the norm at all.

Your attitude is quite offensive to what I think would be the majority of the country...
Yes, I would think that was the norm. I don't think I've been to one "cheap" wedding here in Ireland and I've been to over half a dozen in the last couple of years alone.

womandriver wrote: »

Why are they morons? It's a couple's own business what they want to spend/.

+1.

I wouldn't spend huge amounts of money on a car, but to some people this is normal. I don't think they're morons for it, I just wouldn't spend that money myself.

carnagesri

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It's a lot less than 20000 alright.

sahara24

People really do get off topic on these forums...other than carnagesri...has anyone else that posted here actually got married or plans on getting married in New York? If not you aren't really helping this person out much, just wasting their time. I was actually really interested in getting married in New York and would love to get advice from people who actually did get married there or have a wedding booked. I went onto this thread for that reason...hopefully the next few posts will actually be relevant.

Gatica

sorry, you're right, so am gonna jump off the bandwagon of getting defensive in response to an offensive post....

Good luck with plans in NY! It's a fab city.

pinkilicious

We got married in July in New York. We had 9 guests. The hotel we stayed in arranged the reception for us but we did also have afternoon in The Plaza. PM if you would like any other details. It was such an amazing experience, I'd do it again in a heartbeat!

hucklebuck

starjen wrote: »

Hi all

My fiance and I are thinking of getting married in New York. Estimating that there will be no more than 20 guests attending. Have fallen in love with the Shakespeare Garden in Central Park.

Just wondering if anyone has experience of getting married in NYC and what did you do for the afters - meal, etc?

Considering Hawaii and Florida for the honeymoon..have been to Florida a good few times but would love any info/tips on Hawaii

Thanks in advance

A cousin of mine got married in New York, they had a small bbq after the ceremony and the meal was in the evening, with about an hour between each course and an open bar all night. The wedding was about 70:30 Americans to Irish, my cousin is Irish and his wife American with two Irish parents.

hucklebuck

MagicMarker wrote: »

Since when is a normal Irish wedding 20 grand? I realize some morons pay that kind of money but I wouldn't have though that was the norm at all.

Some morons? Only an imebecile/ cheapskate/ loner or all if the above would think its cheaper than 20k, which is probably a fair average price.

Are you going to invite us to your Lidl crisps and fizzy orange reception.

Electric Sheep

hucklebuck wrote: »

Some morons? Only an imebecile/ cheapskate/ loner or all if the above would think its cheaper than 20k, which is probably a fair average price.

Are you going to invite us to your Lidl crisps and fizzy orange reception.

Seriously? You think paying less than 20K is being a cheapskate? You are probably one of those people who invites every Tom Dick and Harry they've ever been aquainted with, so that the guests will pay for your expensive wedding.

hucklebuck

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Seriously? You think paying less than 20K is being a cheapskate? You are probably one of those people who invites every Tom Dick and Harry they've ever been aquainted with, so that the guests will pay for your expensive wedding.

Seriously can you read? "/" denotes or. Cheapskate is an option but it depends on where you have it and/or how many people you invite.

Or I am definitely someone who had 185 at my wedding which was our families, uncles/ aunts and friends, we did not invite people we knew less than 5 years or anyone we worked with.

Do you think inviting more people would increase or reduce the cost of the wedding? Increased numbers reduce the couples chances of covering their costs as you wont get near the cost back in presents.

Before you even book a hotel you have a band, photographer, dj, dresses, rooms for the bridal party and parents so before you even feed anyone your starting point is somewhere between 8k and 12k so 20k is a reasonable average wedding cost unless you are having the reception in Mc Donalds

Electric Sheep

hucklebuck wrote: »

Seriously can you read? "/" denotes or. Cheapskate is an option but it depends on where you have it and/or how many people you invite.

Or I am definitely someone who had 185 at my wedding which was our families, uncles/ aunts and friends, we did not invite people we knew less than 5 years or anyone we worked with.

Do you think inviting more people would increase or reduce the cost of the wedding? Increased numbers reduce the couples chances of covering their costs as you wont get near the cost back in presents.

Before you even book a hotel you have a band, photographer, dj, dresses, rooms for the bridal party and parents so before you even feed anyone your starting point is somewhere between 8k and 12k so 20k is a reasonable average wedding cost unless you are having the reception in Mc Donalds

You have a band, photographer etc and all the rest no matter how many guests you invite. The price for them does not go up if you invite more guests. The amount received in gifts does go up when more are invited. I have heard many couples talking about the tipping point when the wedding goes into "profit". A lot of greedy couples out there.

hucklebuck

Electric Sheep wrote: »

You have a band, photographer etc and all the rest no matter how many guests you invite. The price for them does not go up if you invite more guests. The amount received in gifts does go up when more are invited. I have heard many couples talking about the tipping point when the wedding goes into "profit". A lot of greedy couples out there.

Sure you have the essentials but if you do a reception, meal with a few courses, toast and food for the afters you must be looking at 70 plus per head on top of the essentials.

Its foolish to rely on increased numbers to get your wedding paid back, old people like to give gifts and a few young couples gave us 50 or 100 between them.

A friend of mine had 280 people in Clontarf Castle and 3 couples (uncles and aunts) gave 50 in a card between the 6 of them, their chair covers cost 60(dont get me started on chair covers)

Electric Sheep

hucklebuck wrote: »

Sure you have the essentials but if you do a reception, meal with a few courses, toast and food for the afters you must be looking at 70 plus per head on top of the essentials.

Its foolish to rely on increased numbers to get your wedding paid back, old people like to give gifts and a few young couples gave us 50 or 100 between them.

A friend of mine had 280 people in Clontarf Castle and 3 couples (uncles and aunts) gave 50 in a card between the 6 of them, their chair covers cost 60(dont get me started on chair covers)

But we know from threads on here that the average gift is 100 per head. I note that couples always seem to remember to the last euro the amount of each gift. Funny that.

MagicMarker

hucklebuck wrote: »

Sure you have the essentials but if you do a reception, meal with a few courses, toast and food for the afters you must be looking at 70 plus per head on top of the essentials.

Based on your figures had you invited half as many people you would have saved yourself a cool €6500.

It seems I've offended some (presumably those who have spent 20k on a wedding:) ). But seriously, 20k on a party (let's call it what it is) is simply ridiculous no matter how you want to look at it. I couldn't possibly spend so much on so little and not feel like a right tit.

Electric Sheep

MagicMarker wrote: »

Based on your figures had you invited half as many people you would have saved yourself a cool €6500.

It seems I've offended some (presumably those who have spent 20k on a wedding:) ). But seriously, 20k on a party (let's call it what it is) is simply ridiculous no matter how you want to look at it. I couldn't possibly spend so much on so little and not feel like a right tit.

Especially when so much of it is pure keeping up with the Jones'. The days of enjoyable weddings are past, now most people I know dread the arrival of a wedding invitation and the expectations it entails.

hucklebuck

Electric Sheep wrote: »

But we know from threads on here that the average gift is 100 per head. I note that couples always seem to remember to the last euro the amount of each gift. Funny that.

18 of my friends got married before me and 250 would be the gift they got from each couple, this was in the boom. We got married in the recession and our average cash present was about 160 from each couple. As mentioned we got a number of 50s and 100s from couples but generous uncles and aunts brought our average back up but we also got 2 cups from a family of four.

Maybe some people do have big weddings to cover the cost but its a cynical view of the best day of your life.

We invited our nearest and dearest to a four star hotel that did great food, got their commitment to keep the bar open til 4 and our guests to be left to finish their drinks in their own time, got the best wedding band we saw and people still talk about what a great day they had, all our friends had met each other loads of times at our parties so everyone was relaxed from the off.

At the end of it all we put 5k in the bank and brought just under 10k for spending money on our honeymoon.

Electric Sheep

hucklebuck wrote: »

18 of my friends got married before me and 250 would be the gift they got from each couple, this was in the boom. We got married in the recession and our average cash present was about 160 from each couple. As mentioned we got a number of 50s and 100s from couples but generous uncles and aunts brought our average back up but we also got 2 cups from a family of four.

Maybe some people do have big weddings to cover the cost but its a cynical view of the best day of your life.

We invited our nearest and dearest to a four star hotel that did great food, got their commitment to keep the bar open til 4 and our guests to be left to finish their drinks in their own time, got the best wedding band we saw and people still talk about what a great day they had, all our friends had met each other loads of times at our parties so everyone was relaxed from the off.

At the end of it all we put 5k in the bank and brought just under 10k for spending money on our honeymoon.

Do you honestly think the wedding day is the best day of a person's life? I certainly hope that I will have better days than what is essentially an expensive piece of oneupmanship.

A friend of mine settled and got married there. We had a great time but one point on the cost - while it may be cheaper to host a small wedding overall as much money might be spent by those attending when you consider flights, time off, hotels etc.

Be prepared for people you might expect to come to not be able to.

April O Neill

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A friend of mine settled and got married there. We had a great time but one point on the cost - while it may be cheaper to host a small wedding overall as much money might be spent by those attending when you consider flights, time off, hotels etc.

Be prepared for people you might expect to come to not be able to.

+1

If anyone close to me invites me to a foreign wedding in the next few years, I won't be able to afford to go.

And New York is a very expensive city for visitors. :eek:

Jerrica

MagicMarker wrote: »

But seriously, 20k on a party (let's call it what it is) is simply ridiculous no matter how you want to look at it. I couldn't possibly spend so much on so little and not feel like a right tit.

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Especially when so much of it is pure keeping up with the Jones'. The days of enjoyable weddings are past, now most people I know dread the arrival of a wedding invitation and the expectations it entails.

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Do you honestly think the wedding day is the best day of a person's life? I certainly hope that I will have better days than what is essentially an expensive piece of oneupmanship.

It never ceases to amaze me how much begrudgery this forum brings out in people.

MagicMarker

Jerrica wrote: »

It never ceases to amaze me how much begrudgery this forum brings out in people.

That word, I do not think it means what you think it means.

Jerrica

MagicMarker wrote: »

That word, I do not think it means what you think it means.

Snipey and wholly unnecessary comments about how people choose to spend their cash for their wedding days? Think I pretty much got it right. It's the weddings forum, is it really too much to ask that people respect eachother's choices given the importance of the event to a couple's life? If it's not your thing, grand, but why the need to put other people's choices down so vehemently?

Toots

Guys let's keep replies on topic and helpful to the OP.