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Marriage Over

  • 19-10-2013 3:45pm
    #1
    secondcap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24 ✭


    Found in past few days marriage is over, there was an affiar (other side not mine) and other issues, partner doesnt want to do counselling or try any longer, feel a bit lost and desolate, Part of me thinks I should try and win her over while another part says maybe for the best, in shock so meandering a bit!!! any advice would be great. thanks


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  • #2
    Zen65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,630 ✭✭✭Zen65


    secondcap wrote: »
    Found in past few days marriage is over, there was an affiar (other side not mine) and other issues, partner doesnt want to do counselling or try any longer . .

    I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

    And it is a loss, judging by what you have written. If she is not interested in trying any longer then no amount of effort on your part is going to make it work. At best you'll turn yourself into a nervous wreck, always wondering if she's being unfaithful.

    What to do now depends very much on circumstances, and as you've not offered any information (kids? home? jobs? family?), yet it's hard to say.

    But no matter what the circumstances, a trip to your solicitor seems essential right now. What you need is not Boards.ie; it's serious advice.

    Be at peace,

    Z


  • #3
    secondcap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24 ✭secondcap


    Thanks for that, Yeah there are no kids or mortgages involved thank god which prob makes it somewhat easier although doesnt feel like that, Im a bit lonley most of our firends were mutual which causes a probllem now but such is life


  • #4
    IrishEyes19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    secondcap wrote: »
    Thanks for that, Yeah there are no kids or mortgages involved thank god which prob makes it somewhat easier although doesnt feel like that, Im a bit lonley most of our firends were mutual which causes a probllem now but such is life

    you dont have to lose these friends' OP, obviously you wont be meeting them as a couple, but if these are close friends' surely they wont abandon you either. Without trying to play the blame game, she is the one who had the affair. you arent exactly in the bad books here. Don't feel like you have to shut these people away either, Im so sorry for your loss but its time now to draw people closer not hide away in the shadows.


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