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Money Issues When Dating

  • 13-10-2013 10:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now and everything is going great, well almost everything. At the moment I don't have a lot of cash to spare and I know he makes a significant amount more than me. I am finding it difficult to keep up with all the dates we've been going on. He wants to spend a lot of time with me and do different activites like restaurants, bars etc. That's great, and I want to spend time with him too, but these all cost money, which I dont have!

    How do I work around this? I wouldn't like to tell him how it is because I think he'd think less of me. I know it's a silly thing to think, but my pride would be hurt admitting that I am strapped for money. I've tried doing the whole night in with a movie thing, but we both live with a lot of housemates who are always around so it doesn't really work when you don't have privacy.

    Another problem is that I drive a car and he doesn't. Everytime we go on a date I have to drive. I don't mind driving, it's just the petrol costs are getting to me. I can't just ask him to give petrol money (although he has offered before). Is there any way around this?

    Really what I am asking is how do you date on a shoestring budget without looking like you're poor!


Comments

  • #2
    R.D. aka MR.D
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,643 ✭✭✭R.D. aka MR.D


    You call him your boyfriend and you say that it's been a few months. You HAVE to be honest and upfront with him.

    Just say to him that you don't have much money. What kind of boyfriend or even friend would think badly of you for being honest about your finances?


  • #3
    Toast4532
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,613 ✭✭✭Toast4532


    R.D. aka MR.D wrote: »
    You call him your boyfriend and you say that it's been a few months. You HAVE to be honest and upfront with him.

    Just say to him that you don't have much money. What kind of boyfriend or even friend would think badly of you for being honest about your finances?
    I agree with this. He clearly likes you and thinks a lot of you, so your financial situation isn't going to change that (presumably) so you should just talk to him about it. He will understand, maybe he has been thinking the same but just didn't/doesn't know how to say it?

    He is your boyfriend, you should be able to talk to him about anything and everything.


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