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STI paranoia

  • 13-10-2013 1:01am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi there.

    I'm going to try to keep this brief and to the point. I've just been very worried this past few days and wanted some advice.

    Recently I had my first sexual experience. It was with a guy I've been on one or two dates previously. We had unprotected oral sex but we used condoms and lube for anal intercourse where I bottomed.

    I'm just feeling very paranoid over the whole thing as it's all new to me. I know the window for testing for HIV is 3 months+, and I'm just wondering how does a sexually active gay man cope with waiting this long for an accurate result? I'm aware there's other STI's out there too and I'm just trying to find ways to stop thinking so much about it!

    Has anyone any advice on my plan of action? Should I contact this guy again and ask him outright about his status/sexual activity? Am I being silly given we were cautious as could be?

    Thanks all for any help you can give me.


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  • #2
    Dr. Shrike
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 102 ✭✭Dr. Shrike


    You're being paranoid about HIV, but there's nothing paranoid about having STI tests done every few months, even if you're using condoms for anal.


  • #3
    Locker10a
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 4,218 Mod ✭✭✭✭Locker10a


    You're being silly! You dont have any sti's


  • #4
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,158 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    STIs are of course a possibility and there is no such thing as 100% safe sex. The risks of HIV from oral sex are very very low.

    I would reccomend everyone who is sexually active get tested regularly - perhaps as regular as once a year.

    Maybe OP ring the gay mens health service for professional advice.

    www.gaymenshealthservice.ie

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #5
    Davyhal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 455 ✭✭Davyhal


    Don't be silly, wrap your willy - always! Also, make sure you get a test once a year, if not every six months, even if you take precautions every time. This applies to all people that have had sexual encounters, not just the people who are very frequently sexually active. Follow this and you should be grand. To think otherwise, the paranoia would end up with you just denying yourself a healthy and fun love(or lust) life!

    But yeah, I wouldn't worry if I were you.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey there guys, op again.

    Thank you so much to those who replied and gave such sound advice. You really have given me a new lease of life and saved a bit of hair from falling out till I get tested!

    Thank you!


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  • #7
    Mr.Frame
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 766 ✭✭✭Mr.Frame


    Opstiparanoia wrote: »
    Hey there guys, op again.

    Thank you so much to those who replied and gave such sound advice. You really have given me a new lease of life and saved a bit of hair from falling out till I get tested!

    Thank you!
    Just a question
    You said it was your first sexual experience with a guy.Why did you bottom ?
    Just because you are gay doesnt mean you HAVE to have anal sex.Lots and lots of gay guys many of whom are in relationships do not have anal sex
    Never feel pressured into doing something you think you HAVE to do or must do


  • #8
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,158 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Mr.Frame wrote: »
    Just a question
    You said it was your first sexual experience with a guy.Why did you bottom ?
    Just because you are gay doesnt mean you HAVE to have anal sex.Lots and lots of gay guys many of whom are in relationships do not have anal sex
    Never feel pressured into doing something you think you HAVE to do or must do

    Fair advice not to feel pressured but he may or not have been pressured - he hasnt indicated that he was.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #9
    Mr.Frame
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 766 ✭✭✭Mr.Frame


    mango salsa wrote: »
    Fair advice not to feel pressured but he may or not have been pressured - he hasnt indicated that he was.

    That's why I asked him


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