Need to get him out of my head!.

Summer2014123 · 12-10-2013 9:08am #1

No judgements please!

I started a new job two years ago and began working closely with this guy. Over time we developed feelings for each other anyway we ended up having a brief affair. We are both married. He called a halt to things and by this time I had fallen in love with him. Two years on we are still working together. I am now still in love with him and I feel like my head is going to explode. He flirts with me all the time. He goes out of his way to see me we dont work in the same section but he comes to use equipment in my section passing atleast 10 other places with the same equipment. All his body language says he still likes me especially his eye contact. Even the way he looks at me colleagues have even commented on it. I know the only way I will stop feeling like this is if I cut all contact. So I am looking for a transfer but that could take a year atleast. How do I deal with this in the mean time?

Czarcasm · 12-10-2013 8:39pm

Quite simply don't entertain him. Don't engage with him, tell him to back off and give you your space.

He called an end to the affair yet he keeps toying with you because he knows he can.

stupidpiggy · 13-10-2013 11:10am

Hey OP

Don't flirt back, don't encourage him, accept that the situation was foolish, you got hurt and be grateful that nobody else got dragged in to it. Accept that it is the end and where possible try be a little less friendly with this guy. As the previous poster said - he's only toying with you because on some level you are giving him the green light.

In my experience trying to forget about guys - cutting contact really is the only way.

So, where possible just ignore him and be polite when you need too.

Hope your transfer comes through soon!

road_high · 13-10-2013 11:16am

He sounds like a total head wreck and not a very nice person.

Tigger99 · 13-10-2013 11:35am

Would you have an opportunity to say to him that he's making you uncomfortable and that others have noticed it? I doubt he cares about anyone other than himself, but I'd say his reputation is important to him. I'm met men like this and they are cowards deep down.

CaraMay · 13-10-2013 5:30pm

Should you not be asking how you get your marriage back on track or else split with your husband. I think it's a horrible thing to stay in a relationship with someone when you 'love' someone else. Address the issues in your marriage and forget about your gigolo. If you can't love your husband again then set him free to meet someone who will love him.

Need to get him out of my head!.

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