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Adopted/Wanting contact with brother

  • 11-10-2013 2:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I am adopted (Living with my great aunt and uncle) I am 21.
    I can contact my birth mother if I want (I have her number, I was adopted within family)

    However I have a younger brother who was adopted by a couple, They live down the country whereas I live in Dublin.

    We met a few times at Christmas time throughout the years, with a social worker present, however as time has went on we have not seen each other.

    How do I go about making contact? or Can I even make contact?

    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Neyite
    Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    OP, there is an adoption forum where posters might be able to help more. PM a mod if you want it moved.


  • #3
    The_Conductor
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 32,286 Mod ✭✭✭✭The_Conductor


    Feel free to post in the adoption forum.
    Note- a reason to keep the thread in PI, rather than adoption- we unfortunately don't have anonymous posting available.

    Absolutely no reason not to contact your brother- it would appear that you have some sort of an open adoption arrangement in place- so he is aware of your existence- so communication from you isn't something wholly unexpected.

    I'd say- put your best foot forward.

    Note- he is younger than you are- you're not going to know how he might view contact- or how he may feel. I know you're adopted too- but his experiences may be different from yours- indeed he may have issues with the fact that you were adopted within the family, while his was outside the family- its impossible to tell.

    Just- don't have expectations (of any nature) and take things as they come, you're not going to know his point of view.

    Best of good luck.


  • #4
    Princess Consuela Bananahammock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,776 ✭✭✭✭Princess Consuela Bananahammock


    First question, is he over 18? if not, it may rpesent an obstacle.

    If your family still has contact with the family, go that route and someone to contact his adoptive parents. It might be easier for them to just to gauge feelings and less stressful for our brother.

    If not, you may have to go through whatever agency or agent he was adopted via. Try Barnardo's. Even if they weren't involved they'll give good advice.

    Good luck.

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