Lady not texting back eventhough all well>

Canyon86

Hi folks,

I have been in contact with a lady recently whom I met online (yes I know lol)

texting away grand good convo etc,



And all of sudden its just a dead end?


any advice lads?

wirelessdude01

How long since you heard from her?

Esoteric_

Canyon86 wrote: »

Hi folks,

I have been in contact with a lady recently whom I met online (yes I know lol)

texting away grand good convo etc,



And all of sudden its just a dead end?


any advice lads?

Leave it. Could be any number of reasons why she hasn't replied - no credit, busy, out with friends.

If she wants to talk to you, she'll text you. If she doesn't, you have your answer.

Canyon86

Thanks for your reply lads!

I havent heard from her since last night!

possibly overreacting?

she added me on facebook,and serious flirting going on also


confused

wirelessdude01

Canyon86 wrote: »

possibly overreacting?

Very much so. Chill the jets and let her contact you. Nothing worse than someone who plagues the other with text upon text for no reason.

Canyon86

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

Very much so. Chill the jets and let her contact you. Nothing worse than someone who plagues the other with text upon text for no reason.

Thanks for the advice wireless dude,

I ll stick with that so!

Seeds of doubt are gone now! nice one!

Beruthiel

Canyon86 wrote: »

texting away grand good convo etc,

I don't do conversations via sms.
If you want to talk, call me or wait until we are in the same room.
IMO texting is for basic contact only.
Might be an age thing though....

Canyon86

Just for an update I got two snap chats off her last night and today, they seemed fairly generic, still no reply back FCuk it I'll go out and enjoy my weekend and try not to get hung up over it

wirelessdude01

Have you even met this lady?

Canyon86

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

Have you even met this lady?

No I haven't we met online lol but had been getting on great chatting away etc

wirelessdude01

Have either of you actually suggested doing the normal thing and actually meeting up?

stargazer 68

Canyon86 wrote: »

Just for an update I got two snap chats off her last night and today, they seemed fairly generic, still no reply back FCuk it I'll go out and enjoy my weekend and try not to get hung up over it

For goodness sake ask her out before someone else does!!!! :rolleyes:

Potatoeman

Canyon86 wrote: »

No I haven't we met online lol but had been getting on great chatting away etc

People usually juggle a few people before they meet up. Dont put all your effort in with one person you have not meet face to face. You can get on fine txt chatting but just not click when you meet up.

Canyon86

Potatoeman wrote: »

People usually juggle a few people before they meet up. Dont put all your effort in with one person you have not meet face to face. You can get on fine txt chatting but just not click when you meet up.

Ya lads I asked her out and she said yes but not this weekend due to work she seems very positive and willing it's just the breakdown in texting bothers me lol

wirelessdude01

I'd say that she possibly has a few other lads on the scene as well and might have a date with one of them this weekend.

When you say the messages were generic, how do you mean?

Potatoeman

Canyon86 wrote: »

Ya lads I asked her out and she said yes but not this weekend due to work she seems very positive and willing it's just the breakdown in texting bothers me lol

Dont over think it, if you have not meet up yet. Try to chat with someone else so you dont dwell on it.

Grandpa Hassan

People play a numbers game on dating websites, OP. Its not what you want to hear, but its naive to think she's not chatting to (and meeting up with) other guys. You need to do the same.....sounds like you're putting all your eggs in one basket. And you have to meet her as soon as you can

Canyon86

Thats a possibility alright!! She sends snap chats like about the weather or going to work not personal ones do you get me?

wirelessdude01

Canyon86 wrote: »

Thats a possibility alright!! She sends snap chats like about the weather or going to work not personal ones do you get me?

So generic ones that could possibly be sent to multiple recipients?

Canyon86

Grandpa Hassan wrote: »

People play a numbers game on dating websites, OP. Its not what you want to hear, but its naive to think she's not chatting to (and meeting up with) other guys. You need to do the same.....sounds like you're putting all your eggs in one basket. And you have to meet her as soon as you can[/quote Ya your spot on there, I m being very naive! It's a real numbers name that's for sure!

Canyon86

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

So generic ones that could possibly be sent to multiple recipients?

Yep!

judgefudge

Bit quick to jump to the conclusion that she's meeting up with someone else this weekend! Sure it's quite possible she's chatting with other guys but she could be just busy!

I wouldn't rush into chatting with or meeting other people just to even things up. You don't know what she's doing at the end of the day and you like her. I would chill out a bit about it though. You still don't know the woman.

I hate people that use snapchats as a way of conversing. I don't mind text messaging, because sometimes it is the easier approach, but snapchats are another thing altogether.

Merkin

You seriously need to cool the jets. You haven't even met this woman and you're agonizing over not hearing from her in a few hours?

Canyon86

Merkin wrote: »

You seriously need to cool the jets. You haven't even met this woman and you're agonizing over not hearing from her in a few hours?

Ya I do alright! Just a pity cos we were getting on well over the phone , it's two days now ha

Merkin

If someone I hadn't met was texting and contacting me repeatedly I would assume they were very very needy. I would find it extremely off putting and would more likely than not sever contact.

Why do you feel the need to be in constant contact with someone you don't know?

She agreed to a date next weekend with you so the natural thing to say would be to have a good weekend and you'll be in touch next week to arrange specifics.

Canyon86

Merkin wrote: »

If someone I hadn't met was texting and contacting me repeatedly I would assume they were very very needy. I would find it extremely off putting and would more likely than not sever contact.

Why do you feel the need to be in constant contact with someone you don't know?

She agreed to a date next weekend with you so the natural thing to say would be to have a good weekend and you'll be in touch next week to arrange specifics.

That's true alright! I keep the convo going which could have been mistake I asked another question Would you advise leaving the contact off till next week so? I don't want to sent s needy text lol too soon. And thanks for your replies

Merkin

Wait until next week to arrange where and when the date will be. I don't understand why you would need to be in continuous contact with a stranger.

Canyon86

Merkin wrote: »

Wait until next week to arrange where and when the date will be. I don't understand why you would need to be in continuous contact with a stranger.

Will do! Wait it out for a bit so! I just wanted to keep the convo going that's all, it was flowing nicely you see.seemed logical at the time

aisr1ofk43dpy5

Whats a snapchat lads

wirelessdude01

Wynter Limited Campfire wrote: »

Whats a snapchat lads

As far as I knew it was used by young ones sending 'naughty' pictures and also ones having affairs. Benefits of snap chat being that messages disappear quickly so that they aren't kept(evidence isn't there for affairs).

aisr1ofk43dpy5

Thanks for that dude you learn something new every day

Lenmeister

Canyon86 wrote: »

Hi folks,

I have been in contact with a lady recently whom I met online (yes I know lol)

texting away grand good convo etc,



And all of sudden its just a dead end?


any advice lads?

Sorry but I don't get what's so funny about online dating, insecure or immature about it are we?

Canyon86 wrote: »

Thanks for your reply lads!

I havent heard from her since last night!

possibly overreacting?

she added me on facebook,and serious flirting going on also


confused

Since last night? What you want her to wake up and the 1st thing she thinks about be you? Get real, she has a life and doesn't need to respond every chance she gets to your neediness. And if she added you on facebook what the hell you getting so worked up about.

Calm down and realise that you are far from the main thing in her life, she's under no obligation to respond to you in less than x time, espeically when you're just some random stranger off the internet.

thegreatgonzo

Lenmeister wrote: »

Sorry but I don't get what's so funny about online dating, insecure or immature about it are we?

Since last night? What you want her to wake up and the 1st thing she thinks about be you? Get real, she has a life and doesn't need to respond every chance she gets to your neediness. And if she added you on facebook what the hell you getting so worked up about.

Calm down and realise that you are far from the main thing in her life, she's under no obligation to respond to you in less than x time, espeically when you're just some random stranger off the internet.

Don't bite the poor lad's head off, he's read all the previous posts (you are bit late to the conversation) and realised he was over reacting :-)

Lenmeister

Yes I do sound quite harsh there but I want the message to sink in.

Canyon86

Lenmeister wrote: »

Yes I do sound quite harsh there but I want the message to sink in.

Hi lenmeister! Your harsh in places but you gotta be cruel to be kind ! I get your message! And for the record I haven't heard anything from her so I m just going to move on ! Many thanks for all replies

judgefudge

Canyon86 wrote: »

Hi lenmeister! Your harsh in places but you gotta be cruel to be kind ! I get your message! And for the record I haven't heard anything from her so I m just going to move on ! Many thanks for all replies

You haven't heard anything from her since Friday? When she agreed to go on a date next weekend with you?! Am I getting this right?

And because you haven't heard from her this weekend you're now talking about moving on. Jesus. Give the woman a chance. Maybe she's busy. You haven't even been on one date yet. Personally I'd be seriously put off if a guy I was seeing was so clingy before we even met!

Esel

You need to stop using ! so much (I'm assuming you do it while texting too). A full stop will ensue otherwise.

Canyon86

judgefudge wrote: »

You haven't heard anything from her since Friday? When she agreed to go on a date next weekend with you?! Am I getting this right?

And because you haven't heard from her this weekend you're now talking about moving on. Jesus. Give the woman a chance. Maybe she's busy. You haven't even been on one date yet. Personally I'd be seriously put off if a guy I was seeing was so clingy before we even met!

Yes correct so far, looking back alright I Prob being a bit ott, I was just concerned about the sudden cut off that's all

Canyon86

Esel wrote: »

You need to stop using ! so much (I'm assuming you do it while texting too). A full stop will ensue otherwise.

Does that post really add to the thread? Must be the boards police!!!!!!!!

Ickle Magoo

Esel,

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Grandpa Hassan

Canyon86 wrote: »

Does that post really add to the thread? Must be the boards police!!!!!!!!

I think there is a valid point there though. I think that putting exclamation marks everywhere on your texts would add to the impression that you're trying too hard

chuckster

Hmm you say you met her online? are you sure she's even real? It might be time to contact Nev &the lads from Catfish ....