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Feel Bad After Break Up

  • 10-10-2013 1:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all,

    Yesterday, I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 and a half years. I'm only 20 but I feel like I'm missing out on life a bit, and that I can't do my own independent things, like travelling on my own and getting to decide if I want to work abroad. But I can't help but feeling bad. She couldn't understand why even though it had been coming tbh, things hadn't been the same for a while. I knew it was the right thing to do, and even though I do care for her, I can't fully say that I am actually in love with her any more. I feel awful though, driving away with her bawling in her car, it just felt bad. Just felt I needed to share and I know I shouldn't get much sympathy due to me doing the breaking up :(


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  • #2
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    Sounds like me years ago when my ex dumped me and him driving away and me bawling in a car! She'll get over it don't worry. It will take time but a broken heart always mends


  • #3
    ManOfMystery
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    You did the right thing. If you weren't truly in love with her, then it wouldn't have been fair on both of you if you continued things. It may seems like the worst thing in the world to her now, but c'est la vie ............... it's a cliche, but it does take two to tango.


  • #4
    Cork selfbuild
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 649 ✭✭✭Cork selfbuild


    Sometimes the right things to do are the hardest, and IMO OP I think you did the right thing, there is no point in stinging someone / a relationship on just for the sake of it to so not to hurt the other person, when in fact you would have just been delaying the inevitable and making matters worse...

    I've been there, done that, I've also felt really guilty and once made the mistake of going back try again and ended up in the same situation a few months later again. Time is a healer and both of you will feel bad for a while but you did the right thing...


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