A bit morbid

TheminxIRL

Sorry if this is the wrong forum but to me its a problem because the thoughts wont go away.

I know this might sound a tad morbid but it keeps going round and round in my head.

Where I grew up was on an estate with 50 houses.

Of those 50 houses, 24 husbands have died and the wives are still living.

And of those 50 houses, 7 wives have lost their sons including my own mother who has lost both her husband, who is my father and my brother.

I heard years ago and dont know if it was some rumour going around that the houses were built on old burial ground, which would not surprise me as in a ver small area there are three further graveyards.

Now Ive gotten it into my head that it was some curse that was on the place that is slowly taking all the males of the families who have lived there.

Its in my head constantly, I keep thinking about the boys who have died, I know myself its probably due to the recent death of my brother to some extent but does anyone else see that as an unusually high number?

IndieGirl

It is an unusually high number, I was shocked when I read your post.
How terribly sad about your Father and Brother, I'm very sorry.

I won't comment on the curse side of things because I'm not sure I believe in that kind of thing, however I do wonder were the deaths all caused by similar circumstances, ie. illness, accidents etc?

And over how many years have these deaths occurred?

Doom

Don't think about it or curses too much, everyone dies-fact.
There are a million different reasons, genes, health, lifestyle, sometimes it seems like a certain area gets hit hard, blame mother nature.

As for curses, a load of bull****, if you believe them you will start to see everything that doesn't go perfect as 'the curse'

Chill out and get busy living, you'll be dead forever when it happens.

TheminxIRL

Thanks for the condolences. it has been a pretty hard time recently.

The husbands/fathers have all been within the past 15 years and the sons I would guess over the past five to six.

The boys. 2 died from cancer related illness, two suicides and one from a brain bleed.

None of the husbands would have been older than 60 odd and the sons in their 20's and 30's.

I just cant get my head around it and on one of the mass cards, a girl I was in school with wrote that another (name of area) son has gone to heaven.

So Im not the only one who has thought about it

artanevilla

Get Radon detectors into those houses.

TheminxIRL

Hi Artanevilla, what are they? Pardon my ignorance

December2012

Radon - http://www.rpii.ie/Mobile.aspx.

Sorry for the loss of your brother.

Sometimes when we're grieving we look for a reason, and anything seems plausible. Me - I don't believe in the curses etc. there may be a physical reason - pollution etc.

TheminxIRL

I think that is what Im doing, trying to blame someone or something for him being gone.

Ill have a read of that now.

Thanks for your help

I would definitely look into radon detectors, but part of me wonders whether this would be better suited to the Paranormal forum, simply for the fact you think it might be connected to a graveyard.

I'm sorry for your loss, but sometimes coincidences are just coincidences.

TheminxIRL

Thanks BoneyArse Ill try there too but as I expected I think I am just looking for something to blame

Diziet

Statistically, women live longer than men, and there is a period for men in their late 50s/early 60s where they are particularly prone ot dying from heart attacks especially. The stats say that there are always more widows than widowers. And you are talking about quite a long time interval.

I am very sorry for your loss. Grief does terrible things to our way of thinking but really this is no more than a coincidence.

I disagree with the suggestion of the paranormal forum. You don't want to feed this way of thinking, you just need to grieve without your life being taken over by additional unecessary worry.

scoobsky

Sorry to here about your loss.
I realised recently that there have been 13 suicides from my Leaving Cert year, and I'm only out of school ten years!
Its shocking when you start adding up numbers but death is going on around us everyday. When you lose someone close you can find yourself looking at the darker side of life. Its painful to realise that this is normal but there are so many other good things in life happening too; people get married and have families, etc.
You've got to break out of the spiral and know that there's no such thing as curses, bad things happen to all of us but so do good things too.