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Don't like college now

  • 08-10-2013 11:54am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, just a general issue because I'm feeling a little sad atm.

    In college, there is literally just five people in my course, myself, two other girls and two guys. The guys go off with themselves, the girls do too. I just don't seem to fit in with them at all. I feel really left out when they decide to go for lunch, and I feel weird tagging along.
    I have joined societies and have good fun with people there, I think it's just this course. Even regarding the modules, I'm not enjoying them as much as I should.

    Sad :(


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  • #2
    cloudatlas
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,711 ✭✭✭cloudatlas


    Is it too late to consider changing course? Your interest and love of what you're doing is paramount. If you tagged along with the girls for coffee would they mind? I remember after lectures we all went to the coffee shop, people would be chatting to certain people more than others so I can see why some thought it was a bit cliquey but no one minded if other people from the course sat at the table and joined in the conversation, in fact it was good to get to know other people. When you're at college you have to be brave and sit with people you don't know otherwise you won't get very far socially.


  • #3
    thegreatgonzo
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    We can't all be best buds with everyone we meet. That's not to say you can't be on friendly terms with all sorts of people that you aren't necessarily close to. It's kind of unfortunate that in such a small class there is a divide between the boys and the girls first of all. I'm presuming this is just early days for you all you all though and you've only known each other a few weeks. It takes time to get comfortable around people. Are you a very shy person that when you go along for coffee or whatever you don't say much?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    The girls actually already knew each other before.. So it's like when I do go for coffee, they talk about some of their friends etc, I haven't really input to that..
    I'm not shy, really, but I just don't really feel included sometimes..

    About not liking the course, I actually arranged a meeting with the year coordinator, I'm only 50/50 ATM. So that's not the biggest deal, yet...

    Thanks!


  • #5
    thegreatgonzo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,623 ✭✭✭thegreatgonzo


    That is hard alright. maybe they don't realise they are making you feel left out? Could you suggest a night out with the class or something so ye might have an opportunity to get to know each other better?


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    From what you've posted, college itself is not the problem - social interaction is. Don't drop out of a course you chose because of social interaction - you might have to pay full fees next year, and it would be terrible to drop or change a course you want to do, because of this.

    I think you just have to try to put yourself out there more, and make a bug effort to interact with others, and really listen to them, and be really friendly. I'm not saying that there's any fault on you for this situation - but only you can't change it (you can't change their behaviour, only yours)

    Best of luck!


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