missing my boyfriend, am I being selfish?

afterglow

Hi all
Advice is really needed here at this stage.
My boyfriend hasn't even gone home yet and I'm missing him and wish that he wouldn't go. He is going to be at home a lot over the next while as a member of his family is unwell. I understand this completely but at the same time I can't help missing him, and I also hate being on my own in the apartment.
What can I do here? I understand this is the way it has to be, but I can't help feeling the way I do either. Advice appreciated.

It's perfectly alright to miss someone and would be a little weird and slightly worrying if you didn't. However it is important that you don't try and keep him from leaving, especially if someone in his family is sick.

LegacyUser

What you do is sit back, relax and be glad that you have met someone that you like so much. You are a lucky girl! He needs your support at this time, be there for him and you will get it back ten fold when this current crisis is over. Next time you meet though, tell him straight out that while you fully understand that you won't be meeting up as much, you would like to exchange more texts and quick phonecalls to keep in touch with each other. Knowing that someone is there for you will have to keep you going over the coming weeks/months. Think of other ways to hook up....lunch instead of dinner at night, meeting for a drink/coffee near the hospital. All those things show him you care, that you support him and also keep you in his head;-) Best of luck

Sasa1

Sorry to hear this.
I don't know if this is the kind of advice you want to hear but have you thought about taking up a hobby? As in, taking your mind off it? A run, walk, Pilates or joining a social group might make you focus on other things while this is going on.

Have you told your boyfriend how you feel? With a family member being unwell he might need you to be strong and be a shoulder to lean on.
Is it the loneliness that bothers you? The boredom? Or because you want to be beside his side as he is going through family issues?
If its the loneliness then maybe you need to focus on doing something for yourself, building up your self esteem to do things on your own. Same for the boredom, a social outlet might be worth a try. If you are upset because you want to be there as he is going through stuff then let him know that you are a phonecall/ car journey etc away if/when he needs support.

Catari Jaguar

You need a life outside of your boyfriend.

That aside, keep busy and try and help out with his family? Are they living near you? Maybe make some meals to freeze, go food shopping or take some laundry loads home or whatever?