Two Quick Questions...

Ms2011

Two questions:-

1) What are peoples opinions on veils, can't decide whether to have one or not, I keep going back & fourth!!

2) Do flower girls have to hold flowers going up the aisle? My niece is my 'flower girl', I never intended on having one but she asked could she be one & humouring her I just said yes. Now her mam is insisting on her having flowers to hold walking up the aisle or she'll look silly. I want her to walk down with my 2 year old son as he will be our page boy & carrying the rings & think she will have her hands full enough getting him from a to b without having to worry about holding flowers, she's only 8.

My wedding is a small civil ceremony if that makes a difference.

tread_softly

Personally, I don't like veils. I much prefer the look of a stunning hairpiece arranged in a nice updo.

Something like these:



As for your flower girl, I don't think it's necessary for her to have flowers. But perhaps give her a 2-3 flowers that you'd be using in your other arrangements in a little ribbon for her to hold. As she's helping her brother, the bunch will be small enough for her to hold in one hand without looking silly

January

Our flower girls are holding little metal hand bag type things from ebay with petals in them.

http://www.ebay.ie/itm/Bridesmaid-flower-girl-metal-wire-basket-wedding-bouquet-posy-gold-or-silver-/220981441014?pt=UK_Home_Garden_Celebrations_Occasions_ET&var=&hash=item33738531f6#ht_1143wt_906

ElleEm

I am not into veils either. I just think they are a bit silly and outdated. Of all the weddings I have been to, noone has ever 'used' one for unveiling. I always just see them as an expensive bit of netting.

ABajaninCork

I wasn't sure about a veil myself. Certainly didn't want anything fancy. Until I tried one on. I Just KNEW I needed one. It finished off my dress nicely. Ended up with a cathedral length crystal and diamante number with silk cuffs (which I took off!)

Veil sounds OTT, but believe me, it wasn't. Just added a bit of subtle sparkle which set off the dress beautifully.

As for the flower girls? I just gave them little posy baskets to carry. Didn't cost much.

ABajaninCork

I've also heard of some flower girls being given little wands to carry. Decorate them whatever way you like!

Ms2011

January those little purses are so pretty, definately have me thinking of doing something like that :-)

The below is how I want my hair done & I had a small band to go in it as I didn't want a veil.
Then I tried on a short 2 tiar veil with rhinestones on it & suprisingly really like it, now I just can't decided :O

Gatica

I would've felt my back too bare without a veil. It was just below shoulder length and felt comfortable. I really wanted to do the "unveiling" but in the excitement of getting out the room and down the hall I forgot to put it over my face... ah well.
I've been to a wedding where the bride didn't wear a veil and it suited her beautifully. She had one of those very elegant Grecian style dresses. She's slim and tall and she just looked really statuesque, especially with a really high bee-hive in Audrey Hepburn style up-do. A veil would've been out of place. If it suits your dress and your style, then forget the veil...

Flower girls and page boys don't need to have flowers. And anyway, it's your wedding so her mother has no say in what her daughter carries down the isle, unless it's something inappropriate... Pick what suits your occasion. If you don't want a bouquet of flowers have a little basket of silk petals or a little sparkly handbag. She's likely to like that as she'll feel more grown up with it.

XMASSmrstobe

Hi,

I also want a similar hair style , have a small-ish head piece on a hairband AND also a veil - full cathedral with the bit to put over my face! Do you know what, i was terrified that it would all be way too much and was totally prepared at my hair trial (yesterday) to have to loose an item...but I don't at all. Its fine. I wont keep the veil on for much after the ceremony but we're in a church and I just find that it's my 'oh my god I'm a bride moment'.. When i put the veil on I love it...

The rest of the wedding is low key, bridemaids are mismatched etc. but I really want to feel like a bride on the day and would say - go with your gut. May be pin your hair roughly and try both with the dress and decide then??

:eek:

Ps. Our flower/page boy also appointed himself (we weren't having any) but he is 3.5 and decided he wants a suit and my aunt thought it was hilarious. So he's too young to carry rings but we will prob give him a 'here comes the bride sign' and pin a buttonhole too - added comedy. He loves the prep and wants to do that and then become a dinosaur for the 'weddn'. told me last week that he cant wait for 'his party' and 'can it be on tomorrow'!!

stargazer 68

Ms2011 wrote: »

January those little purses are so pretty, definately have me thinking of doing something like that :-)

The below is how I want my hair done & I had a small band to go in it as I didn't want a veil.
Then I tried on a short 2 tiar veil with rhinestones on it & suprisingly really like it, now I just can't decided :O

They are beautiful. I have just sent the hair pic to my sister as she has no idea what to do with hers and her hair trial is tonight!

Ms2011

Dovies wrote: »

They are beautiful. I have just sent the hair pic to my sister as she has no idea what to do with hers and her hair trial is tonight!

Yeah I like it as it's nice & simple, down but not in your face :-)

Ms2011

Looks like a little purse might be the way to go with the flower girl.

As for a veil, I might have to wait for my trial & take pics with & without & see which stands out for me.
Honestly sometimes I wish someone would make half the decisions for me ha!!

Moonbeam

my flower girls held wands:)
try veils on and see what you think,I did not want one but got one made and it was pretty:)

Neyite

Regarding the veil, it really depends on your dress, and maybe what your hair will be like.

A single tier plain floor length veil set my dress off when I tried it on, and gives a bit of cover for the church part. But I'll be buying the beads and tulle myself and doing it because the one I liked was nearly 300 quid! I could probably make it for 50.

Moonbeam

I got mine made for about 25 pounds up north,it was nearly 200 in a local bridal shop there!!

Cailleachdubh

I'm not into veils either I must say, though some friends have gone for them and they can look well; just not for me.

What about a birdcage veil? It's a good compromise solution and can look subtle but stunning.

pwurple

I love veils. I think they give a great line to the dress, and they can be removed after a while to show lovely hair. plus, if the day has a breeze, you can get some very dramatic photos with it flowing behind you. And if its long and your venue has a nice floor, you can get fantastic photos showing mosaics through it, all that kind of thing.

It does depend maybe on the style of the wedding though? I didn't go for one myself as I had a more casual thing and I felt it would be out of place. My dress was knee length etc. But for a full length dress, it can be a great look.

Florists often make up small wicker flower baskets for flower girls... I thought that was their entire role, carrying a small basket of flowers. You can carry those baskets one-handed no problem. They are very sturdy.

Your two year old will be fine, my daughter was a flower girl a couple of weeks after her 2nd birthday. Practice the day before, and give him instructions 'Hand this box to daddy'. He'll be grand. I'd even send them up separately.
Here is the basket she had.

ABajaninCork

That basket arrangement is lovely! I had similar for my flower girls, but the baskets were a little smaller. One of the flower girls still has her basket 5 years later. Her Mummy made a dried flower arrangement with it!

Ms2011

Have the flower girl sorted, I know my son & I know the flower girl will need to be free to grab him if he spots someone in the crowd he wants to 'say hello' to so me & her mam have settled on the flower wand below.

Now just to sort the veil dilemma!!!

pwurple

Thanks, yeah I liked it. I saw lots of other ones that looked a bit holy-communiony if you get me. White satin baskets. The bride picked this one out with the florist and I thought it was lovely. Simple for her to carry too. The little one was mad about it on the day, kept showing it off to people.

That's nice Ms2011, she'll love a wand!

Try a single tier veil maybe as well as the double you tried before? If it adds to the dress then go for it!

solerina

No veil for me either..I really don't like them and think they are overkill....a nice hair piece looks much better IMO.No idea on flowergirls, not having any