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Starting conversations with strangers

  • 01-10-2013 11:37AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,041 ✭✭✭Seachmall


    I was in Dublin the other day for the All Ireland replay and it seemed everywhere I went a conversation would start with strangers as a result of me wearing the Clare jersey and it got me thinking; how do most folk go about striking up chat with randomers when there isn't such an obvious topic of conversation?

    I'm generally half-cut when I'm having the banter with folk I don't know and it usually starts with me asking about some TV show or looking for a general opinion but I've seen people walk up to others and just jump straight into a story, and then there's the more traditional "Hi, I'm David..." introductions.

    I'm not talking about the conversations you naturally fall into, but instead when you're out and must make a conscious effort to mingle (at a wedding or business thing for example).

    I'm assuming it varies with age, people over 30 seem more comfortable with the direct introductions yet people in their early twenties seem to take a different approach.

    So, AH, how do you go about making friends?






    Thinly veiled "I need help making friends" thread.


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  • Posts: 81,310 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Martin Young Screenwriter


    Make an observation on something happening

    Usually leave the introductions until we've had a chat and established we're getting on well enough


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Weather or finding something that you can both moan about (the bus arriving late or something).


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,899 ✭✭✭✭BBDBB


    just stand there staring at them, licking your eyebrows, until they say something, first one to look away loses


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    Seachmall wrote: »
    ... but I've seen people walk up to others and just jump straight into a story, and then there's the more traditional "Hi, I'm David..." introductions.

    ...

    Oh jeez man I wish I knew the names of some people I've had random conversations with. With some we've been speaking whenever we meet (for years) and I do not, to this day, know their name! It can be fupping embarassing tbh!

    Normally conversations start up with something happening around us with another person or location and it just grows from there. I've had the strangest of conversations with people that I still randomly meet and to this day I do not know their name. I'd ask others later if I see them again if they know them, but nope. Their are still random people out there who know me to see; chat away to me no bother, but I do not know who they are :o


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Ah you're talking about at parties and stuff. I have no idea. It usually just happens.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,041 ✭✭✭Seachmall


    kerry4sam wrote: »
    Oh jeez man I wish I knew the names of some people I've had random conversations with. With some we've been speaking whenever we meet (for years) and I do not, to this day, know their name! It can be fupping embarassing tbh!

    Normally conversations start up with something happening around us with another person or location and it just grows from there. I've had the strangest of conversations with people that I still randomly meet and to this day I do not know their name. I'd ask others later if I see them again if they know them, but nope. Their are still random people out there who know me to see; chat away to me no bother, but I do not know who they are :o

    You think you're bad, I confuse the names of my best friends. People I've known for years, and if we're out drinking it's guaranteed I'll call someone by the wrong name.

    It's more or less accepted at this stage that I'm terrible with names, but it's still awkward when I do it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    I just give off an air of unlikeability and that prevents all banal conversations about the de gubberment and de wedder, it's great.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 17 muck_raker


    one of the things irish people excel at , small talk with complete strangers , I do it all the time , don't expect to ever speak to the person again either yet its great


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Hate small talk with people I don't know. Especially with parents who have kids or people on public transport.


  • Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I love chatting to strangers! I'll talk the hind legs off a donkey though.

    I can be quite nervous going into a party on my own, very nervous in fact to the point where I feel a little bit of panic but then chin up, tits out, smile on your face and the hard part is over quick enough.

    One of my favourite things about Ireland. You'll always find someone to chat to.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 533 ✭✭✭heretochat


    I love chatting to strangers! I'll talk the hind legs off a donkey though.

    I can be quite nervous going into a party on my own, very nervous in fact to the point where I feel a little bit of panic but then chin up, tits out, smile on your face and the hard part is over quick enough.

    One of my favourite things about Ireland. You'll always find someone to chat to.

    Especially when you stick your tits out at a party.. :D


  • Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    heretochat wrote: »
    Especially when you stick your tits out at a party.. :D

    Hmmm, bad turn of phrase in AH I guess :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,885 ✭✭✭DeanAustin


    Hmmm, bad turn of phrase in AH I guess :p

    You do know that if you talk to any man and stick your tits out, he thinks you want to sleep with him? Doesn't just apply to the people on here.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 6,629 ✭✭✭Archeron


    Farts are good ice breakers. Let a long loud wet one and somebody will say "that'll be a boil wash"


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,512 ✭✭✭Muise...


    Hmmm, bad turn of phrase in AH I guess :p

    not when they're SSF fundraising tits. :)

    The conversations I like best are the unexpected ones, like if I'm in a pub and two fellas are trying to settle an argument, so we end up talking about shoes and ships and sealing wax. Once I was in a hospital waiting for an X-Ray, making boring smalltalk with others in the queue, when the radiographer ushered me into the room with: "What was the name of Anna Karenina's fancy-man?" "Vronsky" says I. "That's it! Polish fella in before you only he's a Bronsky."


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,078 ✭✭✭conorhal


    I love chatting to strangers! I'll talk the hind legs off a donkey though.

    I can be quite nervous going into a party on my own, very nervous in fact to the point where I feel a little bit of panic but then chin up, tits out, smile on your face and the hard part is over quick enough.

    One of my favourite things about Ireland. You'll always find someone to chat to.

    While that may be an effective tactic for you, but being a bloke, it's a course of action that rarely illicits a positive response.

    hmmm perhaps I should consider giving it another go but this time use a push up bra....


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,441 ✭✭✭old hippy


    Depends where I'm at and who I end up in conversation with. I used to miss the banter back home and for a while, I believed that London was a bit cold. But then, I got to meet people and found it's a lot easier to meet folk and make friends than I'd originally thought.

    How does one go about it? Haven't a clue. Just happens.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    more often than not, I don't really like strangers starting conversations with me in a pub if I'm alone as I actually enjoy having a quiet pint by myself sometimes and it's not an indication of wanting company.

    On holiday abroad or on the way to an away match would be exceptions though.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 516 ✭✭✭wuzziwig


    You really don't try to have these random, small talk conversations with people though, they just sort of happen. It could be anything that triggers them. An observation of an event, or a person or you might accidentally stumble when passing them and fall at their feet (yes I'm clumsy and yes this has happened a few times). You could start a convo with someone and get nothing back but then you turn to the person at the other side of you and you hit it off straight away.

    I end up talking to total strangers about the most bizzare things when I'm on a night out. My friends constantly have to pull me away from conversations when we are moving from pub to pub.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,339 ✭✭✭Artful_Badger


    Most people don't like strangers trying to start conversations with them. The world is full of head down, make no eye contact type people who seem to think its the hallmark of a lunatic to try talk to people they dont know. Unless there is drink involved of course, then everyone is your friend.


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  • Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Janey mackers, has noone ever heard the phrase "chin up, tits out" before?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,923 ✭✭✭Wossack


    directors commentary on pornos count?

    chest out more usually :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,146 ✭✭✭StephenHendry


    occasions like the AI op are great in terms of having a conversation with strangers, it gives the other person something to talk about, they would be more comfortable talking to you about the game as a conversation starter with you as you were wearing your clare jersey,

    the weather imo is great for conversation with strangers, we love discussing/bemoaning it any time of the year etc.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Janey mackers, has noone ever heard the phrase "chin up, tits out" before?

    No.

    Stop making up breast-centric phrases.

    Didn't the Gardai have to speak to you about this before?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,899 ✭✭✭✭BBDBB


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    No.

    Stop making up breast-centric phrases.

    Didn't the Gardai have to speak to you about this before?


    he mumbled something about it, but he wasn't maintaining eye contact if you know what I mean ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,029 ✭✭✭salacious crumb


    Janey mackers, has noone ever heard the phrase "chin up, tits out" before?

    Evidently not :pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,122 ✭✭✭BeerWolf


    My mummy told me to never talk to strangers... :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,734 ✭✭✭seenitall


    One of the best things about Ireland is that when you walk into an old man's pub by yourself, you are guaranteed not to be left to your own devices for very long.

    I love it, that genuine interest and friendliness and initiative in people here. Not many other places like that in Europe.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    Janey mackers, has noone ever heard the phrase "chin up, tits out" before?


    I'd heard of "head up, shoulders back" before alright, but you've just reminded me of the time Joey from Friends was talking to Chandler after coming back from the tailors -

    "What do you mean there's no cupping?"


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,126 ✭✭✭Santa Cruz


    old hippy wrote: »
    Depends where I'm at and who I end up in conversation with. I used to miss the banter back home and for a while, I believed that London was a bit cold. But then, I got to meet people and found it's a lot easier to meet folk and make friends than I'd originally thought.

    How does one go about it? Haven't a clue. Just happens.

    Women love when you pay them a compliment. You know, something like
    "for such a fat girl you don't sweat much"


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