How do you get a boyfriend?

JH1809

I'm 21 and have never had a boyfriend. I honestly don't understand how girls manage to find relationships nowadays?

I'd give up trying but i'm just sick of always being a third wheel and being alone.

Advice?

Sauve

Mod

Hi JH1809,

I've moved your thread to here, as I think you'll get better responses in this forum.

Sauve.

carzony

I think Facebook, twitter have a huge part to play. I know people who add girls in their local areas and over a few weeks/months get talking and eventually meet up.

I'm in your situation only difference is i'm a 21 year old male. I don't drink or smoke so instead i'v joined a voluntary organisation and have gotten involved in a lot of social groups in college... Notthing has worked out for me yet but it's early days...

JH1809

Good advice but i'm usually friend-zoned. Must be some weird vibe I give off..haha

shane9689

socialise socialise socialise....90% of peope you will meet will suck, but 10% will be worth while.

also fb and sites like this etc...stuff can happen...but best stick to local clubs etc.... better results

JH1809

shane9689 wrote: »

socialise socialise socialise....90% of peope you will meet will suck, but 10% will be worth while.

also fb and sites like this etc...stuff can happen...but best stick to local clubs etc.... better results

The 90% thing is actually something i need to take on board!

carzony

shane9689 wrote: »

socialise socialise socialise....90% of peope you will meet will suck, but 10% will be worth while.

also fb and sites like this etc...stuff can happen...but best stick to local clubs etc.... better results

From my experience ,I really believe if your not a drinker your kinda screwed..

Scortho

By talking to men your own age (or older if you're into that:p)

I met my girlfriend 3 and a half years ago looking at a map when we were 18 so it can happy anywhere.

You don't need to go out to pubs and clubs and give it up easy etc to get a boyfriend you could meet him waiting for the bus.

But approach and chat to men who you're attracted too, they'll either be totally stumped or you'll hit it right off.
There are men out there who are attracted to you and who you are attracted to, chances are they're afraid to approach you for fear of being put down.

Unlike women, men won't tell you where to go if you approach them and start chatting with them.

Are you friends with and men? See if they can put you on a date with one of their friends.

JH1809

Good advice, I'm just so woefully shy. I need to just take the plunge. Thanks!

Scortho

JH1809 wrote: »

Good advice, I'm just so woefully shy. I need to just take the plunge. Thanks!

Trust me, no male out there is going to reject you if you start having small talk with them. Luckily for you, you've nothing to fear!

JH1809

That's what my sister says...haha "Men are simple."

shane9689

btw when i said local clubs...i meant like sports clubs, or chess club or whatever the hell your into...not night clubs, night clubs are a no go...sometimes pubs can be ok, 50/50 with pubs really

wirelessdude01

Don't be desperate. By that I mean don't give off the vibe of 'I want a boyfriend'. People can smell/see that a mile away. Know someone who is constantly giving out about not having someone yet she is so standoffish and dismissive of people. The town aren't a good combination when it comes to finding someone.

magicman88

POF simples