Hmmm , i need someone to explain

OscarMike

Hello everyone reading this thread

Me and my gf are going out 5 months, and recently shes gone to college (miles away) , we seeing each other every weekend which is totaly fine with me , but heres the thing ...
She started go out every week with her new friends (nightclubs ect.).
I understand shes young and all (18) myself 24.
Considering that are both deep in love (true) , i shouldnt be worrying about this right?
It just gets me (yano yaself what college life is like) scares me of a single thought , that she meet someone else and ill be left in a dark corner with not such nice emotional feelings...

Id like to hear out opinions in this situation or previous experiances in this kinda situation
thank you ops

judgefudge

It's understandable. To an extent. But there's nothing you can or should to about it. If she's going to cheat she will cheat and worrying about is going to do nothing but upset you.

OscarMike

judgefudge wrote: »

It's understandable. To an extent. But there's nothing you can or should to about it. If she's going to cheat she will cheat and worrying about is going to do nothing but upset you.

I agree with you. Ya never know what happens , if its love that she feels to me its most likely that she wont do silly things ... I find myself hard trusting people , even the ones i love most (previoust multiple experiances) . If it happens it happens. Thank you

Big Bag of Chips

The whole point of college, aside from the education of course (!), is student nights out.

If she loves you, she is unlikely to cheat.

A girl in my class had a boyfriend at home. She came out all the time. Never once cheated, although she had admirers (beautiful girl, and really genuinely nice), and is now married to that same boyfriend.

Caonima

Fear is the mindkiller

The Corinthian

Sorry OscarMike, but it really comes down to your girlfriend, her character, her maturity and her values.

The old boy/girlfriend separated by college crisis is an old one. The one going to college, suddenly finds themselves in a new environment, with new friends, social scene and significantly decreased parental oversight. They change, as does the way they look at the World (that's what college is supposed to do) and slowly they find they have less and less in common with the one who remains behind.

Sometimes the relationship lasts because the couple have a genuinely deep and mature connection and the one in the line of all this temptation fully knows and feels this. Other times, the love they feel for the one back home is quickly displaced by something shiny they find in college.

And without knowing anything about your girlfriend, her character, her maturity and her values, it's impossible to say.

Lisha

My husband and I are together since we were 16. Am now nearly 36.
I went to college, went out as much as I could afford to and I never cheated.
Tbf, college is a waste of time if the social life does not exist. It's all a part of the experience.

Also if you allow yourself to become paranoid this will ruin your relationship.

And if you try and stop her from enjoying her social life, my advice to her would be to dump you. Sorry if this is too harsh.

You are both young and should be enjoying all the life experiences you both can.

Best if luck op

Troughthemill

She hasn't done anything wrong yet anyway. long distance relationships are hard and your both young so your fears are relevant, It's human nature to wonder and torture yourself but it's so easy to let that get in your head, The key is to recognize that and get it under control. The second the trust goes its gone so try to think of your GF in a better light. Innocent until proven guilty right??

You could try visiting her for a night or two on her campus get to know her new friends and see how her social scene is now it should make you feel better because sometimes if your not sure what your partner is doing you tend to romanticize it and it should bring you closer together.

Don't let paranoia ruin what you have and don't smother the girl with suspicion and neediness because that's a game over.

I hope it works out

OscarMike

Thank you ops
After thinking and reading your posts i come to a conclusion that if it happens that she cheats it will happens , theres nothing i can do basicaly . I got this fear out of my mind already and Im fully trust my gf. And I think i cant prevent her from nights out since it would be silly thing to do as she is only 18. Well anyways thank you all for your quick and smart opinions .