Should I go out or stay in? Need advice fast.

cokeand12

I know this is a small matter compared to some peoples problems.
I am a lad in my twenties and I live at home at the moment due to family issues. I have no problem with this but my social life has suffered a little because I rarely get to go out with my friends.
I am gay and came out a couple of years ago and I am happy. Before I came out I used always go to a pub for a few pints before heading to a club with my friends mainly from school. This was the ideal night out for me.
I made a lot of female friends in college due to the course I was doing. I was popular because their was only a few guys. I used often go out with these people to but it was mainly straight to a night club but I still had a good enough time.
I came out a bout 2 years ago and most people took it okay.
My school friends took it well. We had the odd joke about it and that was it. Nothing changed and nights out were still the same.
When I came out to my college friends they sort of changed and made me their gay best friend. For instance if we went on a night out they insist on going to a gay bar to get me the ride/shift. I went along with this the first time but I told them it wasn't for me. This however continues in straight club there always telling every lad that they think might be gay that I am and will he shift me. I have asked to stop this on loads of occasions. They will always make big deal of me when they are drunk and they will get to carry their handbags because I am gay.
It came to a point where I did my best to avoid going on a night out with them.
Due to a few reasons I haven't being on a night out since last November. However both groups of friends have often asked me out. I had to declined because of issues at home.
My school friends are after asking me out to our local city for Arthur's day and I want to go. We will probably head to one of the main club in the city. I know that I will probably run into my college friends here and they will act the same. I am not ashamed of being gay but I hate people making me out to be less of a man.
If I go and don't tell my college friends I am going out. I will run into them and they will make a big deal of me and I will have an awful night.
If I go and tell them they will just make the entire night a misery for me.
Is there anything I can do?
I know people will say cut out the college friends but this is kind of a hard thing to do because the people can't see that there bothering me no matter how many times I ask them to stop.

LegacyUser

Heya

Definitely go with your school friends if you think you'll have a better night There is nothing worse than going with some group over another not to piss them off because you'll end up having a crap night and at end of the day it's your night and money so you should come home happy

Just tell your college friends your having a night with your school friends that's a normal thing to do so they shouldn't be offended

As for the them taking the piss when it comes to you being gay they kinda sound like bitches I know I would never ask my gay guy friends to hold my handbag etc it's just abit immature if nothing else and they shouldn't be making you feel crappy

Just my opinion though

Good luck and enjoy Arthur's Day

blatantrereg

They sound very annoying. Why do you go drinking with them? You don't have to cut them out to not go drinking with them. Also they can't force you to carry their bags if you don't want to.

If you do go drinking with them, look for the ugliest guys there. Then tell one of your friends that "He looks straight" and go over and ask him if he'll shift her. They'll probably find that hilarious.

Taltos

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