New relationship advice needed

LegacyUser

I was briefly introduced to a guy about 4 weeks ago through mutual friends and a few days later he contacted my friend for my contact details.

When my friend told me he wanted my number, i couldn’t believe it. I thought he was very attractive but never thought he would be interested in me. So we got in contact and arranged a date. He is a very busy individual as he runs his own business and so works long hours, but despite being so busy, he made time for me in his schedule for our date, so I thought he must be keen!

We seemed to hit it off straight away, my sides were sore from laughing and we seemed to have so much in common. It was a really nice evening and I was hoping he thought so too and would want to see me again. We met up again afew days later and again after that and i was delighted.

We have had 8 dates since we met 4 weeks ago and I have met his best friends and also his parents in that time. I overheard his friend asking him if we were going out or what was the story with us, and he said that we were dating at the minute but we would be going out soon. I was sooo happy and excited, because I really like this guy and would love to be in a relationship with him. He makes me the happiest I’ve been in such a long time, he’s actually perfect.

He will openly kiss me and cuddle me in public in front of his friends and really tries hard to make conversation and get on with my friends also. When we are together in my house or his, he is always cuddling me, touching me and kissing me...its like we have been together as a couple for ages!!

I cant believe how fond of him I have become in such a short space of time and I am worried of seeming too keen and frighten him off.. most of the time I wait for him to text me first and when he does, he might just send 1 or 2 very short texts & that’s it and sometimes he don’t text at all.

We are friends on a social media site but he has never made a comment or has acknowledged me on the site at all.. so Im starting to think that maybe he’s not really that into me at all...

I am wondering if I am reading too much into this or if this is normal for new relationships? I was in a long term relationship which lasted 11 years, until about 6 months ago, so I feel like I have no idea how to approach dating now.. things seem to have changed so much.

We are both in our late twenties and I know he has had a number of relationships and is far more experienced than me..he also has a large number of female friends and women seem to be falling at his feet, which makes me uneasy.. I really like him and would like to be more but I am just so afraid that I will mess things up with him..

I know I am probably just being silly.. but any advice would be so much appreciated. Thank you

Big Bag of Chips

Ok - I got through the first 3/4 of your post and was wondering where the problem was with this guy. And then I read that because he hasn't liked anything or commented on your social network page that you're not sure if he's that keen???

Read back over the first 3/4 of your post!!!!!!!!

Yes, you are being silly!

He likes you. You like him. Just enjoy it and see what happens.

ifElseThen

Maybe he's too busy running the business to be poring over Facebook. He might just have a presence on the site and occassionally check it. And if he has loads of FB friends, then maybe your posts etc may get lost in the list of updates that are shown on his update page...

Faith

Ah now, OP, you need to relax! My OH very rarely acknowledges anything I've done on Facebook, because it's essentially meaningless.

Your guy sounds great and like he's really into you. It's more than likely that he's not a big Facebook user or texter. Just relax and enjoy the relationship is my advice .

Merkin

probablyjustbeingsilly wrote: »

I know I am probably just being silly..

Yes you are He seems like a nice, open guy who you've been having a lovely time with. Enjoy it and see what happens. His lack of desire to poke you or being too busy to comment on your posts does not make him less interested, seriously.

Confusedkate

I think you are being "silly" he clearly really likes you which you are very lucky to knowvthat so early in a relationship after being in a relationdhip for so long i think you are overthinking and wanting things to happen so fast .. maybe he doesnt want to make u feel like he's invadeing your personal space by going on your page . thats my opinion dont take to heart ..

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Meauldsegosha

OP I'm with my boyfriend a little over 4 months and although we are friends on FB we have never liked or commented on each other's posts. We don't communicate through FB either. Maybe he keeps his text messages short because you don't initiate contact. He may feel you don't like texting. I can never understand the mentality of some women who won't send the first text to someone they are dating. You are dating this man how is it needy to send him a text.

You are being silly OP. This man clearly likes you and enjoys your company so relax and go with it.

Wow.

This guy sounds pretty great, is fond of you and you're fond about him. Surely this is enough? Apparently not.

Facebook and social networking sites should not be the be all and end all. My girlfriend rarely comments or interacts with anything I put on that site and this doesn't even bother me in the slightest. Why? Because everything else is pretty amazing.

LegacyUser

Thanks so much guys, im a disaster for over thinking things.. Im just goin to have to relax & go with the flow.. He really is lovely & I cant wait to see him again... heres hoping things work out