Dog In The Bed

LegacyUser

I met a girl on a blind date last Friday. Couple of hours after meeting things were going really well and she asked if I'd like to go back to hers. I've never had sex on a blind/first date so I guess I was more interested at the potential of this and agreed. We got some takeway on the way back, had some dinner, started kissing....one thing led to another...and she asked me if I'd like to continue things in the bedroom.

We went into the bedroom, started messing about on the bed, nothing major to start with just a little kissing etc....before I noticed the dog on the other side of this Queen bed. I turned (as she was undoing my belt buckle) and asked whether we "shouldn't put the dog outside" - to which she responded that she couldn't, because the dog would just bark.

We continued and sex was pleasurable, although a little distracting, with the dog wandering about - it sounds like a joke as I write this but I suppose I'm just checking whether this has ever happened to anyone on here and what their feelings about it are. If I'd been a little more strict and made an issue out of it, then there would have been a problem, but as it was what happened happened. I'd like to think there's a next time with this girl and wonder if I do face the same situation again should I really be asking her to leave Fido outside.

strobe

A constantly barking dog would probably be more of a mood killer than one pottering about the floor. Unless the dog was trying to join in at any point I'd just roll with the punches and try to ignore him man.

Catari Jaguar

She needs to get her dog trained, he rules the roost. Silly girl. It is a creepy situation, OP.

judgefudge

I wouldn't really see the issue. Provided the dog wasn't trying to get involved who cares it's just a dog.

ElleEm

I would be the same as you, OP, it would creep me out. I have a cat and could never have sex with her sitting on the bed watching!!!
If you are gonna continue seeing this girl, just simply tell her you feel weird if the dog is there, and ask can you put it downstairs/ outside. Don't make a big deal out of it, just kinda laugh it off and say you would prefer if it was just the two of you.

trio

Some people are pretty relaxed about pets being in the room. A friend of mine thinks it's hilarious when the dog thinks they're wrestling and wants to "wrestle" too.

Personally I'd find it icky, but then I see my dog as almost a kid. Maybe the people who let them stay in the room have anthropormorphalised them less, and think it's no wierder than having a budgie or a hamster in the room. They understand it just as little, after all.

If you want a repeat shag with her, you could just ask that the dog be put in the kitchen/another bedroom for half an hour. Then he could be let back in afterwards to sleep in the room.

JustAThought

Shes had a longer relationship with her dog than with you. It's just pottering about ignoring you - why let it bother you? If it can't see that high up its not even a peeking Tom! Don't let it get to you - so long as its not barking, not on the bed & not in the bed, what's the big hassle .

Frank Black

CuriousArrangement wrote: »

I met a girl on a blind date last Friday.

Could it have been a guide dog?

michael999999

Buy the dog a blindfold!

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McDonnellDean

I think one poster hit the nail on the head,

You see the dog as a dog, she doesn't. You have to remember a lot of people are very emotionally invested in their animals. I have a cat and I swear to god I spend more time talking to her than to normal people. When you have spent years with a small animal trying to wake you up by stamping on your head you gain a certain bond with them.

However, I would bring it up with the girl in a neutral sort of way. For instance, if it is bothering you just say it's not something your used to and would it be cool if for the meantime the dog stays outside.

Personally it wouldn't bother me, it's not like the dog is keeping notes...

stupidpiggy

Haha, this thread made me giggle. I've 3 dogs and have never even contemplated removing them while doing any kind of deed. I've also been with guys who've had dogs and the same thing...

It's so funny anyone would read in to this haha

wallycharlo

judgefudge wrote: »

...Provided the dog wasn't trying to get involved...

I was actually half expecting the OPs post to move in that direction when I had it half read

OP, I'm with you, we have cats at home which get unceremoniously evicted from the bedroom prior to such activity.

ShaShaBear

Our boy has to be left with the option of staying in the room. I'm not sure that he quite understands, but at least when he's there he can see that we are not harming each other, rather than barking and snarling and throwing himself at the door because it sounds like we're being murdered.

The dog isn't going to judge you, and once he doesn't try to make a move on you, I imagine you will be fine. The sex was, as you said, pleasurable, so it obviously didn't bother you that much

ElleEm

McDonnellDean wrote: »

I think one poster hit the nail on the head,

You see the dog as a dog, she doesn't. You have to remember a lot of people are very emotionally invested in their animals. I have a cat and I swear to god I spend more time talking to her than to normal people. When you have spent years with a small animal trying to wake you up by stamping on your head you gain a certain bond with them.

I would actually think it's the opposite. If I was less attached to my pet, then I wouldn't care about her being there. For me, my cat is like a little kid. She has a personality and I just 'know' her. I just couldn't relax with her in the room!

stupidpiggy

ElleEm wrote: »

I would actually think it's the opposite. If I was less attached to my pet, then I wouldn't care about her being there. For me, my cat is like a little kid. She has a personality and I just 'know' her. I just couldn't relax with her in the room!

really? Do you make her leave the room when you get undressed and stuff?

People tend to be a bit more obsessive about cats. Hence the term cat-lady

At the end of the day, they are family pets who we love, but they are still animals.

My doggies would observe a lot, they are mentally stable and have never told anyone my secrets....funny that

wallycharlo

Not trying to turn this into a dog v cat thing, but a cat watching would defintely freak me out more.

E.g. a cat would be there staring at you with a knowing/disapproving look, while a dog may be more likely to give a few woofs woofs, tail wags, and not have a clue.

Raminahobbin

My dog would think I was being attacked if I didn't leave the door ajar for her to check on us :P

LegacyUser

I'd be disgusted OP. I think it's really truly yuck to have a dog or a cat in the room while you're having sex. I honestly wouldn't be able to get past that, and I wouldn't be going there again.