she is hard to read

killer kilbane

My problem is a girl I have been seen told me before she doesnt want relationship but yet complained I dont touch her like I wanted her...Ok i met this girl online, we talked a few days met for coffee then we had a first date of a meal and movie. I was nervous and it she picked up on it during the meal. We went to movie talked for a bit.. Then kissed before we left.

We then met up again a few times we kissed never anything to steamy except for one night in a nightclub. Where it was hot. When we have met up to go movies etc, she is distant, very hard to get close too... but yet blames me for not getting close to her.

What I want to know is on a date to movie or just chatting in car or whatever, do I just pull her to me kiss her touch her. hold her hand in movie to show im interested... I am kinda shy

wirelessdude01

One thing I always say, movies are a bad date idea for dating/new couple. Not able to talk for approx 2hours.

wirelessdude01

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

One thing I always say, movies are a bad date idea for dating/new couple. Not able to talk for approx 2hours.

Not necessarily. I have met people who would much prefer to go to the cinema on dates. And I have met people who would much prefer to go to dinner. If both are happy, then does it really matter?

Back to the point in hand, next time you're in the cinema, try touching her hand and see how she reacts. Then hold it. Take it from there.

Tasden

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Back to the point in hand, next time you're in the cinema, try touching her hand and see how she reacts. Then hold it. Take it from there.

Yeah this is a good idea. Or try touching her arm while having a conversation, hard to explain, naturally if I'm talking to someone I'm close with and let's say they bring up something from the past I'd touch their arm and be like "oh yeah I remember that".... that's an example but no matter what way I explain it it just comes across as creepy when typed!! But once you find a point in conversation where it seems suitable to touch her arm or hand, do it! Then leave it there. It sounds ever so creepy when typed but its a very subtle thing really. But dont like touch her on the shoulder and then sit there with your hand placed on her shoulder haha keep it relaxed. Once there's even a little bit of contact it will naturally just happen then. It wont seem weird because the two of you are supposed to be touching, its expected like, if it was just someone in the office it'd be weird ykwim.
Also the nightclub being easier, could this be alcohol related? Most people are a bit more... affectionate after a few drinks.
Best of luck! Sounds all new and fresh!

killer kilbane

it is new and fresh, but is it normal for her to be all about you, sending pictures to me etc then when i suggest something she refuses to talk about it

Is she just using me for attention? to say she is gorgeous and have a guy want her

CaraMay

Yes she is using you for attention