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  • 22-09-2013 11:41am
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    ckraheen
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    Hi everyone, I apologise to begin with because this will be long and tedious.

    Im in my mid-twenties, but I only came out a few months ago! Maybe im just a bit slow but I never even realised I was interested in girls until a few years ago! I have only had relationships with guys but I realise now that iv little interest in boys; I don’t think Im bi. While iv never had a substanstial relationship with a girl, i have been 'meeting' girls on the Q.T since i was 22; even when was in relationships. And a few months ago, around 5 months after breaking up with my last boyfriend, i finally decided I was what I was and I needed to come out.

    Maybe I just wear rose-tinted but I honestly thought no one would care, let alone my friends. But the revelation actually went down like a lead balloon amongst my friends. I never had a huge circle of friends to begin with but I was shocked that some of my closest friends, which iv know since school instantly wanted nothing to do with me.

    And it seems like that over the last few months the other girls have been fazing me out of our group; not wanting to meet up as much or not inviting me to nights out. Even though those girls stood up for me initially against the others who wanted nothing to do with me!!!!!!! My friends who i went to college with have absolutely no problem with meet i only see them once every 2 months as we are scattered all over the country!

    I havnt even come out to my family yet; which I was something I wasnt worried about, but if my friends had such a bad reaction to it, god only knows what my parents will think! Maybe il brave up if im in a very long term relationship in the future!ha

    I know I was living a lie before i came out but strangely i was happy and at least I had a life,!! I'm just very lonely and my confidence is at an all time low. I have no social life anymore; I barely get any calls or texts anymore, let alone have any friends to meet up with or go out with. Also, Iv never really had gay friends to being with, apart from hooking up with random girls etc. Iv only recently tried online sites like plenty of fish; mainly just to make new friends, so hopefully that will be successful.

    Has anyone else experience such a rejection when you've come out?


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