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Struggling to cope in college

  • 16-09-2013 1:22pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hello,

    Ive just started a postgrad college course and I feel very unhappy and am struggling to cope. Although I had the desire to do this course nerves have completely taken over and I just feel that I dont want to be here. To do this course I had to move a long way away from home and I suppose Im feeling homesick. I no absolutely nobody here and I am wondering why am I putting myself through this.

    I am naturally very shy and I dont have many friends, not any close ones anyway. The past few years have been tough for me and all I could think of was getting as far away from home as possible as I thought it was having a bad influence on me. (Keeping me shy and not mixing with people). Im now of the opinion that perhaps Ive taken too many steps at the one time and have become overcome by it all. There was a course that I might have done nearer home and commuted to and from and may have suited my needs better. It could have been better for me to take one step at a time firstly get my qualification (Maybe a few friends as well) and then secondly move.

    I feel that I may have messed up on this and it is making it harder for me to settle. I am so nervous that Id find it hard to eat even and feel very edgy & tense. Please help me I dont know what to do about it.


Comments

  • #2
    CommanderC
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 420 ✭✭CommanderC


    Does the college have people you could talk to ? Like a student guidance person ?

    The early stages of a postgrad can be stressful but try to take it one thing at a time. Make a time plan for yourself to help manage your work and soon you will find yourself getting into a manageable routine.

    Its a good thing that you have had the courage to move away from home and out of your comfort zone- the moving is often the hardest bit and you will benefit so much from trying something new.

    In terms of meeting friends. Are you in a small class ? Friendships can take a while to form, but if you are in class with the same people everyday then it will happen. Try small things like asking if anyone is going for lunch or for a coffee break.

    Things may seem scary now but there is no reason why you can't be successful.


  • #3
    Jabberwocky_I
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 53 ✭✭Jabberwocky_I


    Give yourself some time OP. I'm guessing you've just started your course? It takes time to settle into anything new and then you've got to factor a big move in as well. Fair play for taking such big steps. It's not easy, but you're doing it.
    Try to remember your reasons for doing the course and it may make it easier to get through the initial discomfort of adjusting to your new situation. I'd be inclined to get in touch with some college supports. Most offer free counselling services, etc. Are there any clubs or societies you're interested in joining? They're a good way to meet new, like-minded people.
    Try to relax and go easy on yourself op. It's not easy uprooting yourself to pursue something new, but you'll probably find you'll have settled in with a month or so.

    Good luck and hope you enjoy the course!:)


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