Lack of sex. Struggling

LegacyUser

I'm a 21 year old male and have not had sex for about 2 years now. I'm actually craving sex at this stage. I try not to act desperate but i'm really struggling with the lack of attention from the opposite sex.

I'm masturbating 2-3 times a day. I started college recently but there are only 2 women in the class and they are taken already. I'm seriously considering a prostitute at this stage..


What's the best way to deal with a dry spell?

FiachDubh

Don't go to a hooker, that's plain wrong and won't do much for your confidence either.
The only way you'll get the ride is hitting bars and clubs like a man demented, and keep the standard low- any willing girl will do, you can't be picky. It shouldn't be that *hard*, we live in a very physical world.

Red About Town

Give up masturbating for a while - it will increase your motivation to get out and get the real thing.

King of Kings

FiachDubh wrote: »

Don't go to a hooker, that's plain wrong and won't do much for your confidence either.
The only way you'll get the ride is hitting bars and clubs like a man demented, and keep the standard low- any willing girl will do, you can't be picky. It shouldn't be that *hard*, we live in a very physical world.

i think this advice may be slated - but it's the perfect advice.

if you want to get laid - get laid - put yourself in the most opportune situations to get some.

that means - don't sit in the gaff drinking cans and smoking weed at the weekends , force yourself out into pubs/clubs where women go , not some art-house **** joint that plays "cool" music , i mean cattle markets

in my time I've realised those that want to get laid and do something about it usually do.
Those that talk about it without action don't.
simple.
It make take a few weeks to get up and running but once you get in your stride it'll be easier than you think,

Red About Town wrote: »

Give up masturbating for a while - it will increase your motivation to get out and get the real thing.

i don't agree with this. at 21 **** each day isn't going to cause much woe.
although don't be doing it before you go out -.

Two Tone from Limehouse

kkkkkkkkkkk wrote: »

I'm a 21 year old male and have not had sex for about 2 years now. I'm actually craving sex at this stage. I try not to act desperate but i'm really struggling with the lack of attention from the opposite sex.

I'm masturbating 2-3 times a day. I started college recently but there are only 2 women in the class and they are taken already. I'm seriously considering a prostitute at this stage..


What's the best way to deal with a dry spell?

You are going to go blind my son

promises

The college bars and nightclubs will be swirming with potential women, if ur not much of a cluber join some if the societies in your college. Sure to meet women there. Best of luck with it OP.

Taltos

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blatantrereg

Definitely agree not to go to a prostitute. Not sure if trying to scavenge the dregs at cattle marts is a better idea. However I agree with the part of making an effort. I would suggest you don't focus on sex too much. It will make you seem desperate and/or pushy. But do practice flirting with women, get chatting with them and so on. If things go well then look to progress if you want etc... So basically the same advice, only without the disregard for standards, and without focusing so much on sex itself.

I wouldn't worry excessively about not getting attention from women. Practice paying attention to them and look to get good responses.

Skuxx

I think it's important to mention aswell, if you do meet a girl, don't be just interested in having sex with her! She might want to get to know you a little first/ may want more then a one night stand etc, if you go in with your lad already in your hand you'll more then likely scare her off!!

Skuxx

Skuxx wrote: »

I think it's important to mention aswell, if you do meet a girl, don't be just interested in having sex with her! She might want to get to know you a little first/ may want more then a one night stand etc, if you go in with your lad already in your hand you'll more then likely scare her off!!

Not necessarily true. There's plenty of women that would want just sex. OP, I would recommend online dating. Don't come off as desperate or anything and you should get lucky. Definitely don't go for a prostitute, not at such a young age.

LegacyUser

Problem with me is, I don't do nightclubs or pubs (havnt been in years) went to an all boys school and have all brothers. I have never been around women in my whole life. There like a different species..


I'v always been told I was very good looking but my lack of interaction with women is I suppose very uncommon? I watch a lot of porn and I suppose that has me crazing sex..