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Family Mediation Service - Gender Inequality

  • 13-09-2013 9:33pm
    #1
    Minister
    Closed Accounts Posts: 444 ✭✭


    Hi,

    I am emabarking (sadly) on the separation process (not by choice). I have had, this week, to put our names down for the family mediation process. On researching the service I notice it is 95% staffed by females.

    http://www.welfare.ie/en/Pages/Family-Mediation-Service.aspx#service

    What are peoples experiences and do the mediators always stay completely impartial?

    I ask as my ex-wife has been receiving great support from two good friends - both separated ladies - who appear to have done quite well out of the situation.

    Forgive me if I am a wee bit un-pc, but life is a tad rough at the minute!


Comments

  • #2
    Sala
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,494 ✭✭✭Sala


    The whole point of mediation is that you come to your own agreements, rather than one party winning or doing better than the other. The role of the mediator is to facilitate discussion, to guide you in the direction of the things that need to be sorted out, not offer solutions. Prepare yourself as to your own ideas on the family home - who says goes, is it sold etc, the kids, who they live with and when and who pays whats.


  • #3
    halie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4 ✭halie


    Hi guys. I just came across your post today and wondered if all went well. I too am registered with family mediation and am waiting for an appointment. However, I am a bit anxious about it and one of my concerns is are they really impartial. I am coming from a different aspect and that is that my ex hubby is great at gaining sympathy from strangers. I would appreciate any info or advice. Thanks


  • #4
    nuac
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,769 ✭✭✭nuac


    Mediators like family law lawyers differ.

    The fact that a mediator or lawyer is female does not necessarily mean that they are entirely on the wife's side.


  • #5
    Minister
    Closed Accounts Posts: 444 ✭✭Minister


    Well Lads, I have been talking to men who attended the FMS nearest to me. Sadly, both said they had a difficult job to achieve consensus and felt that as the service locally is staffed by females there was a bias against the men.

    At this stage I am prepared to maybe let the court take its course and settle that way - I am lucky I will possibly qualify for Free Legal Aid.


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