Quitting job - Heading travelling. telling family?

LegacyUser

Hi,

As the title suggests i've decided to head off travelling in the next few months. I've been "thinking" about it for a long, long time and playing with the idea. But the last few days i've said no more excuses, set myself deadlines looked at the finances. I've decided just to book it and go for it. I'm worried about telling certain family members as they might try and talk me out of it or give reasons why it's the worst idea in the world. I'm not the most assertive when it comes to these relatives. They have strange opinions some times, like thinking it's a mad or funny idea to go and do a masters, or continue study. I just finished a degree and this was the type of thing I got. I also have to let work know and work with a relative which makes it worse, as feel i'm leaving them in the lurch as one of the guys just handed in his notice. I've always been very independant, moved out at 18, so rationally they've no reason to freak out. But one of them is completely blindsided to this fact and decides to treat me like a child, i'm late 20s.

"Hey X, Hey Y, I'm quitting my job and heading travelling and that's all I'll hear from it."

That should about sum it up. It's your decision and your life, OP. But what I would certainly advise doing is figuring out what you'll do once you come back -- if you come back. Would you possibly emigrate?

woodchuck

Howtotell wrote: »

I'm worried about telling certain family members as they might try and talk me out of it or give reasons why it's the worst idea in the world. I'm not the most assertive when it comes to these relatives.

I think you might just have to accept that they'll try to talk you out of it and tell you things to put you off; but just let them! It doesn't mean you have take any of it on board.

My advise would be to have your flights booked already when you tell them. You're obviously not going to back down if that's the case.

Howtotell wrote: »

I also have to let work know and work with a relative which makes it worse, as feel i'm leaving them in the lurch as one of the guys just handed in his notice.

So long as you give them the require notice period there shouldn't be a problem. As they're already planning to interview new staff for the other guy anyway it shouldn't be that much bother to them. They just have to pick two applicants from the bunch instead of one. You can't let this hold you back.

The best of luck and have fun on your travels

LegacyUser

Deleted User wrote: »

"Hey X, Hey Y, I'm quitting my job and heading travelling and that's all I'll hear from it."

That should about sum it up. It's your decision and your life, OP. But what I would certainly advise doing is figuring out what you'll do once you come back -- if you come back. Would you possibly emigrate?

I have no idea what i'll do. I'll be keeping my car when I go, so i'll have that independance when I get back and I plan on saving enough so I have enough for a deposit + couple of months rent/money to get by when I get back. Jobwise i'm not sure, just completed a degree so hoping to get experience over there and get a job when I get back.I know my friends who have travelled and came back, got work much quicker than people who were here trying to get work.

QueenBee1

dont mind what your family say this is your life! I say fair play to you for quitting your job and going I would give anything to have the courage to do the same thing and likewise have been "thinking" of doing the same for quiet a while! Well done I wish you all the best on your travels. Hopefully i will be following in your foot steps soon

kob29

Have a standard response to repeat to all their objections i.e. "ah sure ya only live once"...and everytime you get a repeated objection that you've already dealt with come out with that, they'll probably bore of it fairly soon.

Enjoy your trip

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice guys and for the lovely well wishes. Well i've told the family. They were mostly very supportive and encouraging. One member was all regimental questions, when was this decided etc etc, but I really don't care to be honest. An older family member who means the world to me was shocked and had to pass the phone, which ended with me in tears, not while I was on the phone to them thankfully. Haven't heard from them since Hoping they'll come round, can't stand the thoughts of upsetting them.

QueenBee1

PRESSIE wrote: »

Thanks for the advice guys and for the lovely well wishes. Well i've told the family. They were mostly very supportive and encouraging. One member was all regimental questions, when was this decided etc etc, but I really don't care to be honest. An older family member who means the world to me was shocked and had to pass the phone, which ended with me in tears, not while I was on the phone to them thankfully. Haven't heard from them since Hoping they'll come round, can't stand the thoughts of upsetting them.

You sound like such a thoughtful and caring person but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. It's your life pet and you have to do what you have to do. Good luck x