no girlfriend.

LegacyUser

i have never had a girlfriend. when i do like a girl they dont like me. when they like me i dont seem to be into it. i dont feel gay but people are saying to me i problably am. i am starting to wonder if i am deep down without knowing it.

Never having a girlfriend wouldn't necessarily make you gay. Do you have sexual feelings towards men or women? Could you imagine yourself ever being with a man or a woman?

It could just happen that you are not looking in the right place - have you ever tried Online dating? There is actually an Online dating forum here on boards, which could be great for advice and you can see how to get access by visiting this thread.

MissFlitworth

Exactly. The only thing that makes a guy gay is being attracted to other men. It's nothing to do with having a girlfriend or not (and generally the people who come out with that rubbish are nasty little bullies). You're not gay because you haven't found a girl you click with yet, it's not some kind of punishment for not having a girlfriend.

LegacyUser

hi OP in my humble opinion there is not really enough information here for anyone to be able to offer much. For example if you are 17 and never had a girlfriend it wouldnt be that unusual, however if you are 57 that may be something to think about..normally i would say that if someone is straight they wouldnt be questioning themselves, however im guessing you are very young? maybe you just need more time? and i certainly wouldnt be calling anyone a bully for wondering if you are gay, its not an insult to ask if someone is gay, so shouldnt be seen as bullying, certainly if someone were to ask me if i were gay i wouldnt take it as an insult, especially if i had never had a partner. I think if you are very young, though, you probably shouldnt worry about it too much yet or give yourself any label, maybe just let things pan out and it should become chearer with time. Hope this helps...

Merkin

Are you sexually attracted to other men?

MissFlitworth

Sorry if my post came across like someone asking you if you were gay meant they were doing it in a nasty way. The kind of person I'm referring to as a nasty little bully is the kind of person who sees 'gay' as an insult and does the 'Don't have a girlfriend yet? Gay are you?' thing to try and throw a dig in. If you are gay it's so very no big deal.

freshpopcorn

To be gay you attracted to have feelings for other men.
What age are you OP?
You might just be a late starter just because you don't have a girlfriend doesn't make you gay.