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Boyfriend does not trust me

  • 10-09-2013 11:05pm
    #1
    Trishbo20
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    Hello,
    Have been seeing each other since Jan not even that long....We live together two months...We have been fighting a lot over the past month or so and things have not been good..Just today he admitted to me over text that he does not trust me....we are in separate counties at the minute...I am currently in my dads house as we needed to spend some time apart....I have never cheated on him and do not have any desire to do so...I told him this also today....he says he knows its his own insecurities and jealousies thats making him this way he also said he was never like this with any one else....I have been to a few defferent music fests over summer with friends and on holidays to galway wit a group....He said that any time iv gone away he imagines me cheating on him....How do u deal with this does anyone have any experience????I dunno what to do its annoying me...thanks


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  • #2
    fermanagh_man
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 810 ✭✭✭fermanagh_man


    You moved in together way way to soon for a start

    Has he been cheated on before?


  • #3
    DangerMouse27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 699 ✭✭✭DangerMouse27


    Hi Trishbo20,

    I have to say, if you have to spend time apart already and its only been since January, this does not bode well.
    I wouldnt even say you moved in together too soon, different strokes for different folks. I know others who moved in quickly and never had the problems, that you two seem to have.

    Trust is incredibly important in a relationship and his own insecurities are causing these problems.
    You either try to 'fix' him. And believe me, that rarely works. He has these insecurities from somewhere, they wont just leave all of a sudden.

    Has he had a previous partner cheat on him? or has he had friends who have been cheated on? maybe his parents? Its speculative but maybe all valid avenues for you to persue...if..you want to continue in this relationship.

    Best of Luck!!


  • #4
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    fermanagh_man wrote: »
    You moved in together way way to soon for a start

    Has he been cheated on before?

    I wouldn't necessarily say "too soon" and it's not really fair to say that. All couples are different, all people are different. Sure, it seemed like it was too early for this couple, but it wouldn't be for another.

    OP, I would look into moving into separate places and seeing how it goes from there. If he improves and the relationship gets better, then great, but if it doesn't and it breaks up, it'll be a lot less bad than if you were living together when it happened.


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