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No female interaction

  • 10-09-2013 9:06am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I am a 26 year old male and in once sense of my life is going great, I have gotten good LC results, have a 2.1 degree and now am moving on to my second major multinational company paying me double the wage of some of the guys a grew up with.

    Were I am failing is in the romance department, even though I would never admit it as I am deeply ashamed of it I have only kissed girls and that is how far I have ever gotten with the last one being 7 years ago, despite me going to a mixed primary, secondary schools, having a good few female friends outside of school and having two older sisters. But my interaction with girls from then on has gotten worse and worse mainly because I did a degree what is strictly geeky males and then moved into a career which was very male dominated.

    I wouldn't say I am ugly or anything as I have been approached a few times by women in pubs who I wouldn't be interested in and to be fair I kinda panic in these situations which leads me to run away. I look after myself as well, head to the gym a fair bit and play football and tag rugby, have a good sense of style so I have been told anyway.

    After university I emigrated for my job which turned out to be the 3 most unsocial years of my life, while I did make friends in work all of them seem to be in LTR and any single people I did meet ended up moving away. I am now moving back to the city were most of my mates are based but since I have left a few of my mates have gotten really good with chatting up women and some of them are now in relationships which I couldn't of seen when I left them 3 years ago.

    When I see a girl I am attracted to all I do is play eye tennis until the point she gets freaked out and it kills me that I cannot force myself to go over and say hello. I also have to find a new place to live and I kinda get scared ringing these people up even though I wouldn't have this problem if it was in work or if I have to book something like a taxi, hotel etc.

    I can talk away to any girl once the ice has been broken and I know they have a bf or something as they know I am not trying to chat them up. Like recently I had to give this overview to a girl in work and was going to do it over I.M. but then I looked her up on Linkedin noticed she was quite attractive and I insisted that we have the chat over the phone were I talked to her about general stuff while I was setting up the overview.

    Another thing is everyone keeps asking if I have a girlfriend / seeing anyone yet and it bugs me as it shows to everyone how I am failing at that aspect of my life.

    I am planning on joining a few clubs (football, surfing, rock climbing) when I move back so that I might have the chance of meeting some new people and maybe get talking to girls.

    What do I need to do so that I don't end up like the 40 year old virgin? ;)


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