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Dating..

  • 09-09-2013 10:29pm
    #1
    bget
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 164 ✭✭


    Ladies I need your opinion on something please..

    Not sure if its just me but can anyone tell me if the line:

    "Im not looking for anything serious"

    is code for 'I am looking for something serious but jus not with you. But in the meantime Im perfectly happy to see you as long as no one sees us together'

    Several guys have used this line lately and we hung out a bit, etc.. only for me to eventually get a text saying 'Sorry Ive met someone and dont think it would be fair to keep in contact'.

    Maybe this is jus me but would love to hear what people think..


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  • #2
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    Hi bget,

    I have moved your thread to here, as I think you'll get more help with your query in this forum.
    Good luck :)
    Sauve


  • #3
    Meauldsegosha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,607 ✭✭✭Meauldsegosha


    It's one of the oldest lines in the book. "I'm not looking for anything serious" means "I'm happy to have you around until I find someone I really want to date".


  • #4
    bget
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 164 ✭✭bget


    How did I not know this???? :(


  • #5
    DangerMouse27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 699 ✭✭✭DangerMouse27


    Guys perspective here..

    The guy says this to you and you seem to stay around still..

    "only for me to eventually"... ie, after a period of time. By which point the guy has become bored of you.
    A guy might say that if he just wants a physical relationship with you, and thats all.
    By you going ahead with this.. he will eventually get bored.

    Stay strong and be the one to dictate the whens and the whys to these types of guys.


  • #6
    judgefudge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭judgefudge


    I have only ever said that to a guy in a situation where I've kind of enjoyed dating him but I didn't really wanted to be in a relationship with him, specifically.

    Sorry


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  • #7
    wirelessdude01
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,429 ✭✭✭wirelessdude01


    Sounds like they wanted some 'fun' but without any attachment until someone came along that they could see something 'real' happening with.


  • #8
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,526 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    Sorry OP, but if you are looking for a serious relationship and the guy you are dating specifically tells you "I am not looking for something serious", it is time to walk away.

    He is happy to casually date you until someone he wants to seriously date comes along and by continuing to meet up with him, you are essentially complying with this or at least doing the same thing in his eyes (waiting for someone you want something serious with).


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