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Young Love

  • 07-09-2013 1:52am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I met a girl last year who became my girlfriend in February. We are both young and madly in love with each other! I am 20 and she is 19 and we are both in the same college.

    The thing is, she lives in Tyrone while I am in Cork , so since the start of summer, although we talk every night on skype, we have only been able to meet up every few weeks. It has been hard but we have worked through it and even went on holidays a couple of weeks ago.

    Also I am moving to France in September for a year for college.

    We both want to work it out but I just wanted to know does it sound crazy to be keeping this up given the circumstances? Tbh I really have my doubts as to whether she will remain faithful to me and dare I say it, me to her as we are both still young and trying new things. She got with somebody else in the early stages of our relationship , due to "drunkeness" and swears she deeply regretted it.

    The one thing I am to clinging to is the fact that we'll both be back living very close this time next year for college. I have considered ending it for a year and then trying to get back together but the thought of her with someone else would kill me. She's my first real love,so I have very little to compare it to but I know a good thing when I see it. Really not sure what to do.


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  • #2
    EvanCornwallis
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    You're both too young for a long distance relationship. I know the thought of her with someone else hurts, but, she will be of the same mind. it's going to happen whether you call the break or not. I think if you both decide to go do your own thing for the year, that would be the best and fairest on you both. Then if it's meant to be , see how you are fixed next year.


  • #3
    P. Breathnach
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,089 ✭✭✭✭P. Breathnach


    I don't think it a good idea to put a relationship on hold: either you are committed to one another or you are not. If you suggest a break, you are in effect telling her that you want a licence to get involved with other women (and offering her a licence to do something that you don't really want her to do).

    Try the LDR. If your relationship survives the separation, then it's a precious thing; if it doesn't, then it was probably not going to last into the long term anyway, and your being away would only have hastened the inevitable.


  • #4
    Big Bag of Chips
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    I think you should breakup for the year. I agree that you are too young, and your relationship too "new" for long distance to work.

    She's 19. She should be able to go out and enjoy clubbing and flirting etc. You are 20 and going to a different country. You should be able to enjoy going out doing the same thing.

    I think if you don't break up, then over the course of the year someone will cheat. Then it would be very difficult to continue your relationship from there.

    Where as, if you are both single, then nobody 'cheats' and it is very easy to 'get back together' when you get home.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    I think you should breakup for the year. I agree that you are too young, and your relationship too "new" for long distance to work.

    She's 19. She should be able to go out and enjoy clubbing and flirting etc. You are 20 and going to a different country. You should be able to enjoy going out doing the same thing.

    I think if you don't break up, then over the course of the year someone will cheat. Then it would be very difficult to continue your relationship from there.

    Where as, if you are both single, then nobody 'cheats' and it is very easy to 'get back together' when you get home.

    I've thought about this option, but I'm afraid that might end it completely. I don't want to lose her. At the same time I know I need to live my own life.

    She is very keen in the bedroom and sex is important in our relationship.She is an absolutely stunning girl. She is also very shy and a bit immature which makes me think she might find it hard to reject lads on a night out or whatever. I am her first sexual partner and first proper boyfriend so she is surely curious. She has also been a bit flirty on twitter and the like with other lads , which we have sorted out.

    We've had a long distance relationship all ready since the start of summer and it hasn't been ideal, but we've made it work. I know we love each other. I've never felt like this before about anyone before though, so I really don't know what is best.


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