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  • 04-09-2013 5:40pm
    #1
    stapes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭


    him im a 27 year old male who's Ina relationship with a 24 year old girl for a year and a half its been my 1st relationship and at the moment were having problems on and off we've had a few rows throughout our relationship have even thought of splitting up once or twice but always have seemed to make up afterwards. she lives an hour and a half away from me and works close to home and I work for my dad so me don't see each other daily usually at the weekends or if she gets a few days off during the week shell stay out at mine. she hasn't much interests really to be honest she goes out most weekends unless she's working nights I enjoy Going out but not as much I ain't a big drinker as I used to be I enjoy going to car shows and rallies and she comes to some of them too she isn't big into cars like I am and we row sometimes about going 2 rallies when she like me to spend the weekend with her if she's off last Sunday we were at the local rally which was in my area and some things got me agitated and I shouted at her once or twice that evening her car gave gearbox trouble on the way home which got her more pissed off I texted her Monday and Tuesday and got a reply please don't text until today around 11am got a message saying "IVE BEEN DO A LOT OF THINKING PAST FEW DAYS AND ABOUT THE WAY U SHOUTED AT ME SUNDAY I DO LOVE U BUT THINGS ARENT GONNA WORK BETWEEN US WERE 2 DIFFERENT PEOPLE U LIKE RALLYS TOO MUCH AND NOTHING IS GONNA CHANGE THAT SO SORRY ITS OVER" then we texted a bit to try work things out and we said maybe a small break might do good yano clear the heads for a bit then she said " GIVE IT A WEEK NO CONTACT AND IF IM STILL NOT HAPPY ITS OVER" so what do I do I don't wanna lose this girl took me a long time to get into a relationship nor mind get with a girl somebody help me before I crack up


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  • #2
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    "took me a long time to get into a relationship nor mind get with a girl".... I think this may be a very telling sentence from you. Are you trying to stay with this girl for fear of going along time without another one?

    Sounds like you guys have been having trouble from the get go. Sure relationships have problems from time to time, its only natural. But yours sounds like its more hassle then its worth from what you have wrote here.

    It sounds like she has made her decision, at the end of the day you need to respect this. Take the break up with some class and move on.


  • #3
    stapes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭stapes


    hope it works out she has grown a great relationship with a lot of relatives, uncles, aunts...etc. and she even said if we broke up she be heartbroken coz of my relatives


  • #4
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    "she has grown a great relationship with a lot of relatives, uncles, aunts...etc. and she even said if we broke up she be heartbroken coz of my relatives"......... i'm sorry dude, but this really doesn't mean much at all.

    There are two people in a relationship, only two. Sure, if she gets along well with your parents, relatives etc... its a positive thing. But if things are wrong between the two of you, then all the rest becomes completely irrelevant.


  • #5
    Matteroffact
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 457 ✭✭Matteroffact


    It sounds like she is pissed off with you because you are not making much of an effort to do things with her that she likes to do. Going to rallys is not her cup of tea but she goes with you just to please you and then you end up shouting at her. What have you done to please her. It sounds like you both need to get together and sort out what you both like to do and make compromises along the way. My guess is that she will calm down and when she does have this conversation. She still loves you and you love her so that's a good start.


  • #6
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Sounds like she wants better treatment than she has been getting and she has rightly decided to walk away and try to find it elsewhere.


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  • #7
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    It sounds like you're not into her enough. And if you're not then you should break up.

    Things like "it took a while to get into the relationship", "you've broken up a few times already, you shout at her on the way home from a day out that you should know she's noted about but went to to please you, the way you're talking about relatives...."

    It just seems like you met this girl and she ticked all the boxes of things you thought should be ticked, but without you actually being into her.


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