GF left me

LegacyUser

My GF of 3 and a half years turned around a week a go and told me that she had to be single. She said she was happy but has a bad feeling at the back of her head all the time and that although i distracted her from it in day to day life she couldn't go on as she felt it would only get worse. We're both twenty one and hadn't been arguing and were having fun right until the end. She even kept planning holidays that we were going to go on etc.

Tbh i can be happy without her, but i still love her to bits and enjoy her company so much. We've cut contact and i ametting on with it. She's given me so much and was there gand obviously influenced me as i developed into the person i am now, a person i am very happy with.

I've given up all hope of having her as my girlfriend again, she will eventually be my friend. I am getting by but i am just so confused, i've given up trying to figure out what went wrong because it doesn't matter.

The worst thing is that she said she does still love me and that she could have spent the rest of her life with me but she feels she needs to be single. I think this is just stupid, but it is what it is and i've let her go.

I don't even know why i am doing this. I've told my friends everything, but this helps too. Any advice would be great, i feel better already. I suppose the real question is, should i be more distraught given my heart brokenness or just get on with life the way i am. I don't feel i could be in a relationship for a long time though.

JenEffy

I totally understand how your girlfriend feels. I'm mad about my boyfriend but sometimes I get the urge to be single. It usually only lasts about a week so I know it's what I really want. It sounds like your girlfriend had been thinking about being single for longer, though. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you. She probably just thinks she should enjoy being single while she's young. I think you should give her space and then reconsider being friends with her in a few months.

danish pasterys

Don'tknowwhattodo wrote: »

My GF of 3 and a half years turned around a week a go and told me that she had to be single. She said she was happy but has a bad feeling at the back of her head all the time and that although i distracted her from it in day to day life she couldn't go on as she felt it would only get worse. We're both twenty one and hadn't been arguing and were having fun right until the end. She even kept planning holidays that we were going to go on etc.

Tbh i can be happy without her, but i still love her to bits and enjoy her company so much. We've cut contact and i ametting on with it. She's given me so much and was there gand obviously influenced me as i developed into the person i am now, a person i am very happy with.

I've given up all hope of having her as my girlfriend again, she will eventually be my friend. I am getting by but i am just so confused, i've given up trying to figure out what went wrong because it doesn't matter.

The worst thing is that she said she does still love me and that she could have spent the rest of her life with me but she feels she needs to be single. I think this is just stupid, but it is what it is and i've let her go.

I don't even know why i am doing this. I've told my friends everything, but this helps too. Any advice would be great, i feel better already. I suppose the real question is, should i be more distraught given my heart brokenness or just get on with life the way i am. I don't feel i could be in a relationship for a long time though.

Your only 21 enjoy your life these things always seem like the end of the world but its not especially when your so young, go enjoy life you cannot make a girl want to be with you and why would ya.. Time heals everything and being single has its perks so take advantage if its meant to be she will reconsider.. Win win

December2012

Just feel however you feel at that moment in time - you are not obliged to feel distraught or constantly crying, nor do you have to just brush it off. Just take your time.

One shot on kill

Let her on lad.

Get out with the boys and start meeting other women. She wants to have you when ever she wants so let her be. In all fairness she prob wants to be with other lads and is trying to string you on by telling you all that other ****e.

Let her off forget about her and get out with the lads you will meet someone else. Don't be a flute your only 21. Plenty more fish in the sea as they say.

Don't mean to be harsh but come on.

NicoleL88

I was with "the love of my life" for almost three years when I was your age. But after constant jibes from friends and family of "when are ye getting married?" I thought enough was enough. I was only 21 and wanted to get out, meet new people and experience life for myself.

Today he's one of my best friends and I talk to him nearly every day.

And I'm now living with a man that I love to bits and can see myself having happy and secure future with.

You'll be fine.

lmos

You sound like a mature fella, who sees the situation for what it is. This is an adjustment period for you. Its great you have friends you can talk to, so best of luck to you. Its sounds like you are gonna be fine...oh and enjoy your freedom!!