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contacting while abroad

  • 03-09-2013 5:36pm
    #1
    cactusgal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 830 ✭✭✭


    Hi all,

    I feel silly writing about this because it's pretty unimportant compared to other proper relationship issues!

    But here goes - long story short, I was seeing a lovely new guy for the last month. I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship - amicable breakup, but I wanted to take thing slow. Anyway, things with the new guy were really great, really really had a lovely time with him and he couldn't have been nicer. Initiated contact the majority of the time, brought me out on nice dates, affectionate, respectful, introduced me to friends, etc. In short, fantastic!!

    I had planned a 2-week hol abroad. Although he was busy the day or two before I left, he made the effort to meet up for a drink the night before I flew out, all great and lovely, said he would miss me and to keep in touch, etc.

    All seemed fine. Except I really haven't heard much from him while I've been away. I texted him when I arrived, he replied. I sent an email the next day, which he didn't respond to. He texted me a couple of days later, I replied. And then ... nothing.

    Am I just being a psycho? I definitely don't expect daily contact or anything, but I feel like he's forgotten about me. Which is silly in any case, since it's only been a month. But it was a great month! And if he really liked me, I thought he'd be in contact more often :/

    Sorry in advance for my dumb non-issue, but advice is appreciated! Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    Idle Passerby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,130 ✭✭✭Idle Passerby


    Maybe he just wants you to enjoy your holiday. He can hear all about it when you get back rather than being in touch with you every day your away. You've only been seeing each other a month, give him a chance to miss you.


  • #3
    MissFlitworth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,057 ✭✭✭MissFlitworth


    You're not a psycho, sounds like you're just very used to how people in long term relationships behave & having a little trouble adjusting to being in a 'new' one. I'd say it's pretty normal in a fairly new relationship to not be in touch every day while one of you is away


  • #4
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    I started seeing a girl about 3 months ago,. Two months ago she went on holidays for 3 weeks. Everything was the same as you described... things were going great and we were really in to each other.When she left to go on holidays I kept in minimum contact... once every 3 or 4 days maybe. Not because I didn't like her (I did very much so), but because I though she was on holidays and she was out enjoying herself. I don't know about you but when i'm on holiday I like to forget about my phone for 99% of the time and almost forget the world back home exists. She seemed perfectly fine with it, and would often reply to a text of mine 12 hours later. She came home and we are still together.

    But as always, people are different. This may not be the case with your guy. I would suggest you chill the **** out and enjoy your holiday care free. Chat to him honestly about were you two stand with each other when you get home.


  • #5
    heretochat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 533 ✭✭✭heretochat


    Two things:

    1. You are only together 1 month.. You are now away on holidays for 2 weeks (i.e. half the time you were together)... He probably wants you to enjoy the holidays and is not pressuring you.. You are only together a short while after all

    2. ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAY... Sorry for the caps but it is important. If you and he are meant to be together you can pick back up the threads when you come home. You will only annoy your travel companions if you are mooning around the place all the time..


  • #6
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,526 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    OP, regardless of how well I know someone, I rarely initiate contact with them when they are on holidays.

    Why? The whole point of holidays is to go away and forget about home and everyone in it for a short while, relax, see new things and let your hair down. You can't do that while being plugged in to what's going on at home.

    If someone is on holidays and happens to text me, of course I will text them back. Sometimes I keep it deliberately short and sweet so that they don't get into a long text conversation. Mostly, I wait until they get home to call them or meet up with them to find out about the holiday. Just relax, enjoy your holiday and make the most of it so that you come back relaxed, refreshed and with plenty of tales to tell this lovely guy about what you got up to :)


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