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Found old Pictures of Ex

  • 01-09-2013 05:30PM
    #1
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    Help really upset recently moved in with my boyfriend after going out for 2 years. When he moved in he brought a box with old photos in it. today i was having a look through them and came across 2 pictures of his ex who he broke up with over 10 years ago she was naked. also found one of his most recent ex in bikini:( should i be worried about this? We have sexual problems where my sex drive is much stronger than his and i feel that i dont do it for him and he can be quite lazy in bed its only about his getting off.


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  • #2
    boomkatalog
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    flutterby36 wrote: »
    Help really upset recently moved in with my boyfriend after going out for 2 years. When he moved in he brought a box with old photos in it. today i was having a look through them and came across 2 pictures of his ex who he broke up with over 10 years ago she was naked. also found one of his most recent ex in bikini:( should i be worried about this? We have sexual problems where my sex drive is much stronger than his and i feel that i dont do it for him and he can be quite lazy in bed its only about his getting off.

    Personally, I wouldn't have a problem with my boyfriend having pictures of his ex. But sexy pictures?? Not cool.

    Talk to him about it. He shouldn't have a problem with getting rid of the pictures, if he does then I wouldn't stick around.

    I doubt his ex's would be happy knowing he still has them...


  • #3
    daisybelle2008
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    flutterby36 wrote: »
    Help really upset recently moved in with my boyfriend after going out for 2 years. When he moved in he brought a box with old photos in it. today i was having a look through them and came across 2 pictures of his ex who he broke up with over 10 years ago she was naked. also found one of his most recent ex in bikini:( should i be worried about this? We have sexual problems where my sex drive is much stronger than his and i feel that i dont do it for him and he can be quite lazy in bed its only about his getting off.

    I don't think the old pictures would be an issue if you had a satisfying sex life. If you feel like you 'don't do it for him', then your insecurity is going to grow and grow. Separate to two things. Evaluate and deal with yer sexual problems first and foremost that is your issue. The other stuff with the pics is just the cracks showing. 2 years isn't a long time, you need to figure out how and if you can work around two incompatible sex drives.


  • #4
    Time out
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    Tricky one, its not good finding sexy pictures. Not really fair on you or the ex concerned. Tell him it s not on and see his reaction. Sexual issue is a separate thing really.


  • #5
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    Time out wrote: »
    Tricky one, its not good finding sexy pictures. Not really fair on you or the ex concerned. Tell him it s not on and see his reaction. Sexual issue is a separate thing really.
    Waiting to find the right time to say. Just didn't know if I was over reacting. Don't understand why he brought them to my home with him. I would imagine he should have got rid of them when he was moving his stuff


  • #6
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    daisybelle2008 wrote: »
    I don't think the old pictures would be an issue if you had a satisfying sex life. If you feel like you 'don't do it for him', then your insecurity is going to grow and grow. Separate to two things. Evaluate and deal with yer sexual problems first and foremost that is your issue. The other stuff with the pics is just the cracks showing. 2 years isn't a long time, you need to figure out how and if you can work around two incompatible sex drives.
    Yeah know the two issues are separate. But think it just made it worse. Since we got together I would have always had the stronger sex drive but then I find these pictures and I think it's me makes me feel bad about myself. I know I am very attractive he tells me all the time as do other men. I work out and have good figure but to him it seems sex is just a function he needs to do maybeone or two times a week. But feel it's wrong of him to keep pics


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  • #7
    CommanderC
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    Could it be possible that he doesn't know they are there ? He might not have looked through the boxes..........although I've just realised that you said the first ex was from 10 years ago.

    I'd say ask him for an explanation.


  • #8
    daisybelle2008
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    flutterby36 wrote: »
    Yeah know the two issues are separate. But think it just made it worse. Since we got together I would have always had the stronger sex drive but then I find these pictures and I think it's me makes me feel bad about myself. I know I am very attractive he tells me all the time as do other men. I work out and have good figure but to him it seems sex is just a function he needs to do maybeone or two times a week. But feel it's wrong of him to keep pics

    Well, he obviously wanted to keep them. You can go ahead and tell him that you want him to throw them away because they make you feel insecure. But the real problem is you think that you 'don't do it for him'. So removing all evidence of any woman you think did do it for him is only papering over the cracks.

    If he doesn't have sex with you the way you would like and that makes you insecure, you are going to be threatened by any attention he gives to other women. You could end up torturing yourself and very unhappy.


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