Ever stalk your ex

iamcornholio

I have a friend who is obsessed with his ex and uses my account to look at her facebook whenever she is over, if she is tagged anywhere he drags us to the pub she is in. He never says anything but its fairly creepy. Whenever he is drunk he blabs about her for hours. Its been three years get frickin over it!

Chucken

You're "the Friend" aren't you?

princess-lala

I thought you were gonna say 3 weeks!!

:eek:

If they aren't friends on Facebook - thats for a fricken reason!! He needs to cop himself on!!

Me?

And yet he drags you to the pub. Creepy.

MonkstownHoop

this is gonna be good

Caonima

Disable your Facebook account and do you and him a favour

The Backwards Man

iamcornholio wrote: »

I have a friend who is obsessed with his ex and uses my account to look at her facebook whenever she is over, if she is tagged anywhere he drags us to the pub she is in. He never says anything but its fairly creepy. Whenever he is drunk he blabs about her for hours. Its been three years get frickin over it!

I like your shirt.

anncoates

It's touching to see passion in these desensitized times, no matter how warped.

Frosty McSnowballs

Pfft modern technology!

Tell him to get a ghetto blaster and go to her house, press play, hold it over his head and blast out some awesome 80's tunes at 0300.

She will foam at the gash

shopaholic01

iamcornholio wrote: »

I have a friend who is obsessed with his ex and uses my account to look at her facebook whenever she is over, if she is tagged anywhere he drags us to the pub she is in. He never says anything but its fairly creepy. Whenever he is drunk he blabs about her for hours. Its been three years get frickin over it!

So, for 3 years you've let your friend use your facebook a/c to stalk his ex, then follow him to the pub to stalk her in close range.

Restraining orders all-round are called for here.

Only till her gave up and married me!

iamcornholio

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I like your shirt.

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Dj Grimreefer

I never even contemplated it, I still see my ex daily she always pops around when its dark and looks through my window, my friends think its weird but i think it's cute

Driveby Dogboy

I'm stalking a girl I knew years ago, Not on facebook though, proper stalking

Augmerson

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Pfft modern technology!

Tell him to get a ghetto blaster and go to her house, press play, hold it over his head and blast out some awesome 80's tunes at 0300.

She will foam at the gash

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hhyMCA6jwWU

The Backwards Man

iamcornholio wrote: »

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It goes well with your eyes. Such beautiful eyes. May I look a little closer?










Not so nice is it OP?

Czarcasm

iamcornholio wrote: »

I have a friend who is obsessed with his ex and uses my account to look at her facebook whenever she is over, if she is tagged anywhere he drags us to the pub she is in. He never says anything but its fairly creepy. Whenever he is drunk he blabs about her for hours. Its been three years get frickin over it!

Are you worried that if you drop him he'll start stalking you too? Honestly, have you told YOUR FRIEND to get over it? Why would you even be letting him use your Facebook when you know his behaviour is abnormal?

To answer your question- no, I don't stalk my ex's or ex-friends, etc. It's not even the fact that it's creepy, it's just that I have better things to be doing with my own life. You need to tell your friend it's time to move on as nothing productive can come of their obsession.

iamcornholio

Czarcasm wrote: »

Are you worried that if you drop him he'll start stalking you too? Honestly, have you told YOUR FRIEND to get over it? Why would you even be letting him use your Facebook when you know his behaviour is abnormal?

To answer your question- no, I don't stalk my ex's or ex-friends, etc. It's not even the fact that it's creepy, it's just that I have better things to be doing with my own life. You need to tell your friend it's time to move on as nothing productive can come of their obsession.

Its usually when he has a few cans in him this happens, he's a harmless chap and has a new girlfriend but she works on weekends so doesn't go out too much on them

My name is URL

One day we'll look back on this and wonder why none of us called the cops

keith16

My name is URL wrote: »

One day we'll look back on this and wonder why none of us called the cops

Are you talking about boards.ie in general?

shopaholic01

iamcornholio wrote: »

Its usually when he has a few cans in him this happens, he's a harmless chap and has a new girlfriend but she works on weekends so doesn't go out too much on them

Does his working girlfriend know he regularly stalks his ex?

iamcornholio

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Does his working girlfriend know he regularly stalks his ex?

Haha no!

Chucken

iamcornholio wrote: »

Haha no!

What age is "your Friend"

fussyonion

No I haven't but I know a girl who is so hung up over her ex that she regularly calls him (on private number) and hangs up, threatens his current girlfriend and tells him that as long as he is with his girlfriend, he won't get to see his kids.
Deranged.

George Huxley 1983

In before the restraining order

iamcornholio

Chucken wrote: »

What age is "your Friend"

27

shopaholic01

iamcornholio wrote: »

27

:eek:
Getting more disturbing now.

Chucken

iamcornholio wrote: »

27

He's acting like a 15 year old. tell him to cop on.

Czarcasm

Chucken wrote: »

He's acting like a 15 year old. tell him to cop on.

Ahh here Chucken, give 15 year olds some credit, I don't know too many would behave like the OPs friend. Especially not after three bloody years, and even worse the OP is enabling their behaviour.

Czarcasm

shopaholic01 wrote: »

:eek:
Getting more disturbing now.

More disturbing? :pac:

In all honesty it's pathetic more than anything. For your friends own sake OP stop enabling his behaviour.

iamcornholio

Czarcasm wrote: »

More disturbing? :pac:

In all honesty it's pathetic more than anything. For your friends own sake OP stop enabling his behaviour.

I do discourage it but and tell him to cop on but its usually when I have a few cans in me it happens and I feel sorry for him cause he won't shut up. Sober I wouldn't give it to him

shopaholic01

iamcornholio wrote: »

I do discourage it but and tell him to cop on but its usually when I have a few cans in me it happens and I feel sorry for him cause he won't shut up. Sober I wouldn't give it to him

Ah, we see why you go along with it so. He'll never want you, let it go.

Chucken

Czarcasm wrote: »

Ahh here Chucken, give 15 year olds some credit, I don't know too many would behave like the OPs friend. Especially not after three bloody years, and even worse the OP is enabling their behaviour.

I did think that after I'd posted it

Driveby Dogboy

Driveby Dogboy wrote: »

I'm stalking a girl I knew years ago, Not on facebook though, proper stalking

Ah I'm a sucker for the good old fashioned ways

Howard Juneau

OP tell your friend to quit stalking her, he's getting nowhere after 3 years.......time for him to take it to the next level!

CastingCouch

True love if I ever saw it.

iamcornholio

iamcornholio wrote: »

I have a friend who is obsessed with his ex and uses my account to look at her facebook whenever she is over, if she is tagged anywhere he drags us to the pub she is in. He never says anything but its fairly creepy. Whenever he is drunk he blabs about her for hours. Its been three years get frickin over it!

To be serious for one moment, tell your mate he needs to break the cycle. The more he looks at her FB account the more he'll think about her and the more he'll obsess over her. He has to ask himself the hard questions and only when he gives himself honest answers will he be able to address the issue and move on with his life.

To be fair these things can be tough i know all to well but you have to think of this obsession as a fire that's spreading and i discovered early enough that looking up old photos,etc is only giving the fire oxygen.

Howard Juneau

How's smashing her bike going to help him?

Howard Juneau

Howard Juneau wrote: »

How's smashing her bike going to help him?

If he is handy with bikes perhaps he can offer to repair to fix it and show that any new fella she might have up for the useless baxtard he is :pac:

Caonima

Just get him to have a ****-a-thon and tug every image of her out of his head. Failing that, OP, you go and shag her and see what he thinks of that.

lahalane

Delete her as a friend on your Facebook. I hate when people use technology to stalk people. Its so lazy. Im so hardcore that I dont even use binoculars. Its cheating in a way.

Sinfonia

iamcornholio wrote: »

he's a harmless chap

I've seen this situation enough to say that most people in your situation say this, and most people on the receiving end say the opposite.
Anyway, it's not good and it has to stop.

Pensivepuca

I agree with Sinfonia. It might look harmless on the out side but to the person getting stalked its terrifying. If he always appears at bars or where ever she is tagged by others and she has unfriended and blocked him, she must be so confused as to how he finds her. Through you, OP. Man up and tell your friend to wise the hell up.

worded

It's only stalking if you Folllow her for more than a block.

beks101

I occasionally Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn stalk all my exes, just to see what they're up to, how does the latest squeeze compare, is he still hot or has he turned into a fat mess etc

Doesn't everyone?

PizzamanIRL

iamcornholio wrote: »

I have a friend who is obsessed with his ex and uses my account to look at her facebook whenever she is over, if she is tagged anywhere he drags us to the pub she is in. He never says anything but its fairly creepy. Whenever he is drunk he blabs about her for hours. Its been three years get frickin over it!

It would be great if you were secretly riding her behind his back because of all this pub action he's dragging you to.