Anyone considering or have frozen their eggs

LegacyUser

I'm in my mid 30's (female obviously) and heard a discussion about having your eggs frozen on the radio the other day. Its gotten me thinking. I would love to have kids and I'm not going out with anyone at the moment so I'm feeling the pressure.
I read an article about a woman who had it done and said how great it was to just go out and meet a guy and have fun and not worry about whether or not he might marry you in one year and have a baby in two etc.
Just wondering if anyone has had their eggs frozen or if anyone has found any sensible ways to deal with the pressure I'm feeling. People keep saying 'if its meant to be it'll happen' but that generally comes from people who have kids!

liquoriceall

lovekids11 wrote: »

I'm in my mid 30's (female obviously) and heard a discussion about having your eggs frozen on the radio the other day. Its gotten me thinking. I would love to have kids and I'm not going out with anyone at the moment so I'm feeling the pressure.
I read an article about a woman who had it done and said how great it was to just go out and meet a guy and have fun and not worry about whether or not he might marry you in one year and have a baby in two
Just wondering if anyone has had their eggs frozen or if anyone has found any sensible ways to deal with the pressure I'm feeling. People keep saying 'if its meant to be it'll happen' but that generally comes from people who have kids!

Which is your bigger desire?
If you want kids then do it, its relatively easy to import sperm
Having your eggs frozen is no guarantee of having a baby, IVF has poor success rates
If you decide that meeting someone is your priority then you need to accept that kids may not be an option however you might be very fertile & have no issues concieving at 40 nobody knows

nikpmup

liquoriceall wrote: »

Having your eggs frozen is no guarantee of having a baby, IVF has poor success rates

...this. IVF is no picnic, let me tell you. Having your eggs frozen entails taking heavy duty drugs for several weeks, injecting yourself daily, having internal scans every couple of days (as in, inserting a scan probe into the vagina) and then having a procedure where they extract the eggs using a needle inserted into the vagina up to the ovaries. Then, in order to implant the defrosted eggs, it's another procedure and more drugs. The success rates are abysmal. Freezing eggs is painted as a viable option but the reality is that it's not very successful. Of course, it is better than no options - I think that if you were to do it then you really need to go into it with open eyes.
As the previous poster suggested, maybe look into donor insemination? If having children is important to you then it is a viable option (I was thinking about going that route myself not so long ago)

ruaille buaille

Would u consider fostering children?

lazygal

You should have tests like day three and twenty one bloods done with your gp. Egg collection is no picnic, its a very tough and invasive procedure.

orchidsrpretty

Like the poster above said. Maybe go to your GP and get your AMH tested. This is a indication of how many eggs you have and from there you can decide how long/soon you can wait to have children. Your AMH might be high and in that case you would have some time without having to freeze your eggs.

Also egg freezing in no way guarentees that you will pregnant.

If you wish to have a child now, there are many clinics here and abroad that provide donor sperm, and the costs are not that high. I think its about 200e to purchase.

liquoriceall

Wondering if you just heard this exact topic being discussed on the matt cooper show? They had dr waterstone from cork fertility clinic & another dr from sims whose name I didnt catch

nikpmup

http://www.irishexaminer.com/archives/2013/0903/world/fertility-experts-at-odds-over-egg-freezing-241799.html

I attended the Sims clinic for IVF, and I have to say, Dr Walsh was great, but at the end of the day they are a business, and businesses are there to make money. I know that success rates for IVF with frozen eggs are far lower than success rates with fresh eggs (not sure of the stats but a quick google would throw them up, I'm sure) and the success rates for fresh cycles aren't fantastic to begin with. It's a topic close to my heart as my cousin, to whom I'm very close, has frozen eggs because she had breast cancer and her nine or ten eggs are her only chance of having a baby.

Anyway, OP - it is certainly an option worth looking at; I am very firmly of the opinion that if a family is what you want, and you are financially, emotionally and socially able for it, then single parenting by choice is a very feasible option. Good luck.