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Failed socially at college

  • 22-08-2013 9:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I went to university for 3 years and made a grand total of 0 friends and it's really getting me down. Before going to college I had this idea in my head that it would be the best experience of my life and I'd make tonnes of friends. To be honest I feel like I'm the only person in history to have attended this college (or any other college) and not make a sh*tload of new mates. I only have myself to blame though and that's making it even more painful. I was in an LTR for the first 2 years in college and didn't even try make friends by attending nights out etc. I think I just expected friends to fall into my lap from just going to lectures but obviously the real connections are made on class parties and stuff. Now I'm finished college, the LTR is finished since last year and I feel like I've missed out on a huge part of my life. Also, what am I meant to do now to make up for the lack of new friendships developed? Is it as simple as doing something like going travelling or getting a job? Someone of my age should be in their prime with social connections but tbh I've feck all. It's painful


Comments

  • #2
    Hannibal Smith
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,893 ✭✭✭Hannibal Smith


    You're only young. There is plenty of circumstances to come where you can make friends. What about the people in your life from before the long term relationship? Can you get back in touch with them. Invite one of them out for a drink and a chat and go from there.

    What about doing a night course or something?

    I can be very lazy when it comes to friendships. I let them do all the work and can be very neglectful of them. Not saying you're the same, but pointing out that for that you do have to do a bit of ground work if you want to make and keep friends.


  • #3
    Matteroffact
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 457 ✭✭Matteroffact


    Try meetup.com. There are hundreds of different groups you could join. You are bound to find one that suits you. The more clubs you join the better chance you have of making friends.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    At least you understand where you went wrong and you can determine not to do that in future situations. Make yourself available for work nights out and other invitations. You shouldn't condemn yourself just because you messed up with one social circle. There are many other opportunities. All the best.


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