Dating a girl 2 months, birthday but don't wanna come on strong

BornIn84

hey,

I'm dating this girl for almost 2 months now. Her birthday is next week but she'll be away when it's her actual birthday. I'm taking her out on friday and want to get her a small gift but don't wanna go over the top since we're not seeing each other too long. any ideas what to do? what to get?

Thanks.

What does she like?

December2012

Perfume is a good gift. Not too committal.

miamee

If you can't think of a physical gift, why not bring her out to a gig/show/fancy dinner as the present?

Gannicus

miamee wrote: »

If you can't think of a physical gift, why not bring her out to a gig/show/fancy dinner as the present?

Miamee is on to a winner here.

I was in a similar situation. We got together close to x-mas. We got small little inexpensive trinkets and went off for dinner.

LegacyUser

I was in the same situation not so long ago, I got her some books and dvds. Not very "boyfriendy" i know, but they were based on conversations we'd had on dates. Seemed to go over ok (we're still together anyway)

daithi1970

2monthpresent wrote: »

I was in the same situation not so long ago, I got her some books and dvds. Not very "boyfriendy" i know, but they were based on conversations we'd had on dates. Seemed to go over ok (we're still together anyway)

+1 on this-it shows that your'e listening, and that's always a good thing!

bumper234

50 euro all4one card says happy birthday and lets her get her own prezzie

EireIceMan

bumper234 wrote: »

50 euro all4one card says happy birthday and lets her get her own prezzie

Might look like an easy way out to some people??

bumper234

EireIceMan wrote: »

Might look like an easy way out to some people??

Yup

gg2

2monthpresent wrote: »

I was in the same situation not so long ago, I got her some books and dvds. Not very "boyfriendy" i know, but they were based on conversations we'd had on dates. Seemed to go over ok (we're still together anyway)

That's so sweet, there's thought in that...

Have you a budget??

BornIn84

Cheers everyone for the ideas. Was thinking a small bottle of Perfume and a nice Tapas dinner in town tomorrow night! gonna go with that!

ibarelycare

I definitely wouldn't go for perfume...it's a bit generic and lazy I think tickets to a comedy gig or something along those lines would be good, something that's on in the near future. It's a lovely present, but it's also not a huge gesture, because it's something you're buying for yourself as well!

Cd_doe

An engagement ring...

Na bring her for a meal. That's always a good one

Matteroffact

Perfume is the best gift I think. A woman wants something she can have, not something she shares with you. Perfume is just right.

ibarelycare

Matteroffact wrote: »

Perfume is the best gift I think. A woman wants something she can have, not something she shares with you. Perfume is just right.

I think perfume is just so thoughtless. To me it's one of those gifts that men get as they don't know what else to get!

Matteroffact

ibarelycare wrote: »

I think perfume is just so thoughtless. To me it's one of those gifts that men get as they don't know what else to get!

Naw, don't agree with you there. Perfume is always appreciated by a woman and at this stage of the relationship it is just right.

miamee

Matteroffact wrote: »

Naw, don't agree with you there. Perfume is always appreciated by a woman and at this stage of the relationship it is just right.

I hate when people buy me perfume unless they actually know what ones I like. In this case, he is unlikely to have asked so unless he's been taking notes when in her bedroom/bathroom, it could be hit and miss.

ibarelycare

Matteroffact wrote: »

Naw, don't agree with you there. Perfume is always appreciated by a woman and at this stage of the relationship it is just right.

Well I'm a woman and you certainly don't speak for all of us!

Matteroffact

You can please some of the women some of the time but not all of them all of the time.:D

Lux23

ibarelycare wrote: »

I think perfume is just so thoughtless. To me it's one of those gifts that men get as they don't know what else to get!

I love perfume, the first gift I received from my boyfriend was perfume and I loved it.

dudara

Perfume (if you know the kind she likes), a nice but inexpensive necklace (think Newbridge jewellery prices), a leather bound fancy notebook etc.

Something that won't cost the bank, but that you wouldn't necessarily think to buy for yourself. Just take a look at what you know about her so far, and something will pop out.

The main thing is that you don't forget the day and that you give her a little boost.

jaffacakesyum

Matteroffact wrote: »

Perfume is the best gift I think. A woman wants something she can have, not something she shares with you. Perfume is just right.

Bit of a stupid generalisation there. I'm a woman and as a rule I prefer non-materialistic presents. If someone buys me tickets to a gig to a band or comedian I really like it shows the person knows me and knows what I like.

I would be happy with any present though as I'm always pretty grateful and perfume is absolutely fine.

Gannicus

Hey OP. seems to be a bit of contention about whether or not you should get this new missus perfume. I see no problem in it myself (although I am a bloke). However. Does the gf have a sister or friend you can ask about her favourite brand of perfume maybe get a bottle of that and take in a gig and some dinner maybe too.

Flowers go a long way too. Maybe show up to her house with a small bouquet of flowers then dinner and a comedy gig maybe.

Two Tone from Limehouse

Big Steve wrote: »

Hey OP. seems to be a bit of contention about whether or not you should get this new missus perfume. I see no problem in it myself (although I am a bloke). However. Does the gf have a sister or friend you can ask about her favourite brand of perfume maybe get a bottle of that and take in a gig and some dinner maybe too.

Flowers go a long way too. Maybe show up to her house with a small bouquet of flowers then dinner and a comedy gig maybe.

A framed photograph of yourself. Ladies love confident men

saltyjack silverblade

Don't get perfume! Everytime she wears it she'll ask if it smells familiar-guarantee you won't remember and then it will become "oh remember that perfume. Yeah you got lucky with that one". The same rule applies for scented candles.
Get something that says 'I care and am interested but let's see where this goes'.
IMO you cannot go wrong with a voucher for kiva.org or something gadgety from thinkgeek. Or get something you can do together.

BornIn84

can we close this conversation? I am the OP.

Thanks.