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possible suicide, I need help plz

  • 20-08-2013 1:28pm
    #1
    peace2804
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 435 ✭✭


    Hi all,

    Plz if this is not in the right place feel free to move it.

    I was used to work with a guy, very nice one, he's gone through difficult things in his life (lost his parents when we was young - I don't know how -, divorced with 2 teenagers that he barely sees as they live in France and their mother had turned them against him and in the last few years (5 or 6 yeas) he met a German woman and he loved her so much and he had 2 babies with her (I think 1 and 3 year old), he came back home yesterday and they weren't there, he later discovered that she took the car and she was in the UK heading towards Germany with the babies, without prior notice and really without any apparent reason.

    He is down and he started to write things on facebook about committing a suicide and so on, I tried to talk to him but he seems convinced that this is his only solution and he plans to do it during the week end.

    Now I decided that the best thing to do first is to pay him a visit, talk to him and see what can be done but what if he insists that suicide is his only solution, who should I contact? I feel that I have a duty to act but I don't know what is the best thing to do.

    Any advice is more than welcome.


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  • #2
    super_furry
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,349 ✭✭✭✭super_furry


    If you can't get in touch with any of his family, call the police. Get them around there now, they'll be able to get him the help he needs.


  • #3
    shopaholic01
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,916 ✭✭✭shopaholic01


    Try here OP:
    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=127


  • #4
    frozenfrozen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,903 ✭✭✭frozenfrozen


    I had a similar situation before where I was the only person who the would-be life taker was in contact with. All I could do was reassure her everything would turn out okay. Which is true, everything always turns out ok, you'll always laugh and smile again once you're through the tough time. That's what life is so you might as well keep experiencing it for the good times that will come.

    It worked for my friend that day. Several months later she took her own life in a different county when we weren't in contact anymore. It's good that you feel you need to help but just take this advice and don't hold yourself accountable if anything bad does happen. I was blaming myself for a long period of time after but I've come to terms with the fact that some people just don't want to live and it's ultimately their choice and not yours.

    I wish you and your friend the best and I hope he sees himself though this time in his life...


  • #5
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 6,025 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Pieta are supposed to be very good OP, maybe give them a quick ring

    Head Office: Pieta House Lucan
    Lucan Road
    Lucan
    Dublin
    Phone: 01-6010000
    Centre Manager: Avril Mansouri


    http://www.pieta.ie/index.php/ive-been-feeling-suicidal?gclid=CIGHstSRjLkCFbLMtAodjEIAbA


  • #6
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    If you really think he's going to do it, call the police. I had to do it with a friend and they took him into hospital to get help.


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  • #7
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 50,630 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Moved from After Hours. Please read the Personal Issues charter before posting.

    You will get better answers here OP, best of luck :)


  • #8
    Dodd
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,007 ✭✭✭Dodd


    super_furry wrote: »
    If you can't get in touch with any of his family, call the police. Get them around there now, they'll be able to get him the help he needs.

    I think if someone wants to kill themselves then they should be let do it.
    Who is anyone else to say what you can do or not with your life.
    Call the police and a person may be forced on drugs for the rest of a not so happy life after been locked up.

    Just because others don't agree with what you want to do.


  • #9
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Dodd,

    If you wish to debate the merits or otherwise of suicide prevention, take it to the humanities forum.

    PI is a forum for providing mature, civil and constructive advice based on the issue the OP has stated. Be aware that off-topic and unhelpful posting can earn you a ban from this forum.

    If you haven’t done so already, please take the time to read the [URL=" http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056181484"]forum rules[/URL] in the charter.

    Many thanks.

    As per site policy, if you have an issue with any moderator instruction or request please contact a relevant moderator via PM - DO NOT drag the thread further off-topic by responding on-thread


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