embarressed...,.

LegacyUser

ok sorry for all the details.

i had a one night stanbd with someone. the sex wasnt very good. we were both drunk. we had no protection and she jjust wanted us to ly there naked. then we had very quick sex.couple of thrust. i didnt come and she actually said sorry. after she told me it was just a shag and not to think it was anything more. howeve based on comments i am getting i think she was tell people i was useless. maybe i was but circumstances werent great. should i say something to her or just leave it? how should i respond to my friends?

Czarcasm

Leave it.

Did I say leave it?

Leave it.


Simply OP because the more you entertain the idea, the more you give it believability.

The more you deny it, the more you give it believability.

If you confront her about it, there's every chance she'll tell you indeed you were shìte.

Sometimes it's better to remain ignorant and keep your mouth closed. This is one of those times. But for next time- for your own sake and for hers- at least wear a condom.

Big Bag of Chips

Have you been talking to people about it? Have you been giving details? I can't see any other reason people would be commenting that "she will tell people [you were] useless".

She's probably said nothing - but if she hears back from someone that YOU are discussing it/her THEN she might say you were useless.

Stop talking about it... And carry condoms.

beks101

Yeah next time, wear a condom and don't get so drunk. Drunk sex is rarely anything but uncoordinated, underwhelming and disappointing.

Ignore whatever is being or has been said. That way you maintain a bit of decorum about yourself, as opposed to someone mouthing off about and dissing a former sex partner.

Besides, it takes two to tango.

LegacyUser

i let it slip to a friend and told him not to say but he told everyone without mentioning her name. he thought it ok as her name wasnt mentioned. i got onto him and almost fell out with him over it

LegacyUser

a friend mentioned i was crap at sex. and he doesnt even know her

also its possible she is embarrassed by doing it with me

malibu176

Was in a very similar situation last night messy one night stand no protection and both of us were far too drunk to enjoy it. After we finished I told him it wasn't great he apologised and we got on with it. I told the girls and he told his friend. Im friends with his friend so we know some of the same people. Live in different counties so doesn't bother me too much.

I don't think you should say anything to her because she probably realises it was more than likely down to the drink. Totally understand as a man its embarrassing to hear people talking about your skills in the bedroom but I think talking to her about it will only make things awkward. Try and forget about it and go easy on the drink next time.

bad sex

bad sex wrote: »

i think she was tell people i was useless. maybe i was but circumstances werent great. should i say something to her or just leave it? how should i respond to my friends?

op here.....,,.... wrote: »

i let it slip to a friend and told him not to say but he told everyone without mentioning her name. he thought it ok as her name wasnt mentioned. i got onto him and almost fell out with him over it

op here..... wrote: »

a friend mentioned i was crap at sex. and he doesnt even know her, also its possible she is embarrassed by doing it with me

Sounds like it's you and your friend who can't keep your mouths shut, not this woman. Why do you even think it's she's saying ANYthing? YOU were the one who put the word out about having sex with HER.

As Czarcasm said, leave it ... don't give the gossip anymore energy than you and your friend already have and maybe it will go away.

At the very least, you owe it to this woman to stop gossiping about her. She might not have been embarrassed about doing it with you but she'll probably be mortified when/if she finds out you and your friend and others (!) have been talking about it.

heretochat

Drunk sex = never really that memorable and usually leads to "performance" issues...

Drunk sex without protection = a really bad idea and could lead to all sorts of problems down the road (pregnancy, STI etc.)

So the moral being = drink less and never have sex without protection..

I will now leave my pulpit...

I wouldn't care too much about it, OP. Drunk sex (especially extremely drunk sex) is usually just a fumble more than anything else. Just keep quiet and take no heed of what is being said. I genuinely don't get the need to tell your friends about terrible sex. Surely there are some things that should be kept private ...

Emme

What she said is of no concern compared to the fact that you had unprotected sex. Even if you didn't come you were putting yourself at risk of an STD.

maguic24

bad sex wrote: »

ok sorry for all the details.

i had a one night stanbd with someone. the sex wasnt very good. we were both drunk. we had no protection and she jjust wanted us to ly there naked. then we had very quick sex.couple of thrust. i didnt come and she actually said sorry. after she told me it was just a shag and not to think it was anything more. howeve based on comments i am getting i think she was tell people i was useless. maybe i was but circumstances werent great. should i say something to her or just leave it? how should i respond to my friends?

This is what you should be worried about, not whether you were good/bad/indifferent in bed!!! Get yourself checked for sexually transmitted infections/diseases and make sure she's not preggers!!

Always carry a condom!!!