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what to do with an ex.

  • 19-08-2013 12:04am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I broke up with my ex 2 months ago. We did no contact for a month then he stared to text me.

    I replied to his texts very short and civil without questions, I would feel rude not to reply to his texts. Now he sends me messages every other day on Whatsapp talking about what he was up to, thinking of me and sad without me and other things.

    I genuinely don't want to hear that but I feel guilty not replying to his messages and I don't want to block him because I don't mind being friends with him and sending each other a text occasionally, not every 2 days.

    I don't have feelings for him anymore so I don't think I should block him. It seems like whenever he sees me online, he sends a text hope I'm doing well even I've sent him a text the day before that I'm doing great.

    I've moved on and I don't like him contact me this often, what should I do without being rude or cold.

    Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    Pat McGhee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 345 ✭✭Pat McGhee


    Sorry op but you're gonna have to be cruel to be kind and cut all contact, both for his sake and yours. By responding to him, you're giving him false hope and in order for him to move on, he needs to accept that you're over. A clean break is the best way to do this.

    I know you don't want to be the bad guy but by staying in contact, effectively that's exactly what you are. It's not even a question of being rude. In time, once the pain passes there may be a chance you can be friends but for now, the best thing you can do is cut all ties.


  • #3
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    Tell him straight out that you no longer have feelings for him and don't want to get back together and that you feel it would be best if you weren't in contact anymore.


    There is nothing worse than hope for someone who has been dumped. If you are upfront with him rather than ambiguous, it will hurt like hell initially. But long term it's better for him.

    Some exs are so flaky about breaking up as they are trying not to hurt their ex. But in the end, they have to be blunt at some point. And then the ex is even more hurt because they've been strung along for a while.


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