He drives me crazy!!!!

LilyCampbell

Hello all!!

This is my first post, normally I float about seeing if I can get answers for similar type issues but its got to a stage were I can't answer this one!!!
I would like a response if anyone was in a similar situation, what ye did? How ya sorted it? Il get to it so...

I have a lecturer (I'm in a part time night college) at the mo. I can't stand him he just annoys me to my core, sometimes couldn't even look at him with out giving out some way to myself!! This was how things were until one night I had this bizarre dream about him. Won't give TMI but it was rather steamy did things In that dream that I havnt actually done in my life lol... Ever since things have got strange very strange I've been thinking about this person, that I can't stand!! I have turned very awkward around him ya know the whole shy not knowing what to say blushing carry on! But I can't understand why, like I still can't stand him he still irritates me soo much!! But it gets worse friends I have only went and basically had one of them moments - I'm sure we all have - we're you try to say something and it comes out arse ways.... So long story short I some how said I want him on the end of me!! Well I went red and my shyness has got worse ever since!! What is this, I think it's just lust but I really don't know why! It's really all very bizarre and I can't get the man off my mind!! Oh and we have a normal age gap between us I'm a mature student lol

If anyone has anything similar or can share any light I'd love to hear it!! Not looking for very serious advise but I'd like to hear if anyone was like this what did u do? Ha how did u stop your wayward mind thank you lily

ivytwine

Sounds like the classic love/hate thing. He pisses you off but there's an animal attraction? Well known rom-com plot device :pac:

Seriously tho, this guy is your lecturer so maybe keep your distance and treat his class as just that, a class...

Czarcasm

Classic "opposites attract" OP as Ivytwine says

What is it about him drives you mad anyway? I know in my own circumstances my wife and I have literally driven each other up the walls for the last 16 years from the moment we met (we were living together as housemates before we got together), but when we get on... We, get, on!

(I'll never forget the time we were hosting a party and some friends were staying over, we snuck away early and a friend came to look for us. He opened the bedroom door and in the dimmed light his jaws near hit the floor when he saw the steam rising from the duvet covers! :pac:)


What you're experiencing though is a fantasy, no harm in it, but that doesn't always transfer so well to reality, and that's why I suggest as Ivytwine says that you keep it in mind that this guy is your lecturer, and whether the age gap is only a year or twenty years, the fact is any sort of a physical relationship would be out of bounds of reality because this guy is an authority figure over you. If you got involved with each other in a physical way, that could have a ripple effect on both your college life and his career.

That's the fantasy killer you need to keep reminding yourself of consciously the next morning when you wake up.

Sweet dreams OP...