'unique intimate weddings' - not so unique anymore!!

basketmon

we re getting married later this year - been saving monstrously hard by choice to pay for the wedding that we want. we have choose to have it in a nice venue and give out guests what we feel is good food and entertainment. to do this we sacrifice nights out etc. and we both have ok secure jobs, and bought a house in the last couple of years.

the way we see it we have the money and we choose to put it into our wedding.

however things seem to have gone to a different extreme to the boom years - and its nearly people judge us for choosing to do this.

its constantly reading posts over people saying oh I want a unique wedding, a I couldn't waste my money doing such and such - so we re going to get married and small family dinner - it ll be intimate and personal we don't want a bunch of strangers etc.

well sorry at this stage - those weddings are not unique every joe soap thinks they are hipsters now. just because I choose to have more than 20-40 people at my wedding does not mean its not intimate or personal - my h2b and me just happen to have a big families and a large group of friends since childhood etc . while people might feel its a waste of money - I feel spending 100 quid on drink at a weekend is a waste, or a brand new car, or designer clothes or whatever others choose to spend their money on.

just because its apparently cool to have hipster weddings at the moment doesn't necessarialy make a traditional wedding any less special, or vice versa.

Doom

Can I come?

Lisha

Have the wedding you want and enjoy it. If you have the money spend it what ever way you please.

Enjoy every minute

lazygal

Everyone thinks their wedding is/was unique. Most Irish weddings are pretty similar. That doesn't mean they aren't great fun, but I've been to so many Catholic masses, drinks, dinner, band, DJ, afters and resident bar weddings that I tune out when people doing anything in that vein talk about being different. The only things people really remembered from our wedding was the free bar, band and not having to sit through mass.

basketmon

will do - think the lack of nights out and shopping trips may have drove my rant.

now if I can just format this invite template to include a money poem it will be ok. :D

ha ha ha completely joking.

lazygal

Don't forget to tell people not to wear Coast or Karen Millen attire.

lazygal

lazygal wrote: »

Don't forget to tell people not to wear Coast or Karen Millen attire.

forgive me for sounding naive, but do people really do that???:eek:

anncoates

Thought I'd stumbled on the Ranting and Raving forum for a minute.

all_smilz

Hmmm well as a recently engaged person who wont be able to afford a "traditional wedding" because Im the only one of us with a job and we have a mortgage. We already don't go on expensive nights out, scrape to pay our bills etc. We are havin a smaller wedding (80 persons) because we cannot afford a bigger wedding. We would have less but my dad has a large family and even then I am only having 2-3 cousins to come.
We also don't want to put every penny we have into a day that costs 30k plus.
We are definitely NOT hipsters. Maybe some ppl are making it a hipster thing. But not everyone. I HOPE your wedding is everything you want it to be but for me, my own flowers for my bouquet and other creative small cost cutting methods are making us be inventive and we will enjoy our own personal day. I just had to speak out as a non hipster!

jlm29

I thought hipsters were jeans....
I think it's a bit insulting to insinuate that anyone who wants a small wedding is some kind of hippy dippy wave cadet, who's just choosing to have a small wedding just to be "different" to the Irish stereotype. Surely everyone (including you, op), is entitled to have the day they choose, with the people they choose, and the budget they can (or can't afford).

I have the opposite problem though... I'm being judged for wanting a small do...

basketmon

oh don't get me wrong and as I said - i don't think a wedding is better than anyone elses because of the budget or no. attending. just frustrated that it had become trendy to have much smaller weddings because they were 'intimate' or people saying I was wasting my money just because its not how they choose to spend their money.

people should have a wedding they are comfortable with.

I have diyed invites, mass booklets and anything else I can to save money and add personality to.

my point though possible expressed badly was that each to their own alright, small or big budget and guests - does not equate to a better wedding. and felt that a lot of people were actually basing the fact theirs was small made it inately better, which I disagree with (obviously).

I definitely don't feel a small wedding equates to a hipster wedding, though it might have come out like that - but in my opinion there is definitely people who feel they are being unique in doing the same thing everyone is . and have seen a lot of people specifically saying how bigger(anything over 40) weddings lacked personality,soul, etc.

bee06

I think when it comes to weddings whatever you want to do is going to be wrong by someone and people see no problem in telling you you're wrong too.

At the end of the day it's your wedding so feck everyone else and do what you want.

allthedoyles

There were 4 weddings this weekend in Borris Co Carlow .

One reception in Borris Step House Hotel - another in 17th century Borris Castle , and another in the front garden marquee of brides home .

While we were having few beers in local hotel , many of the wedding guys were watching the golf on TV in lounge , quite a distance away from wedding ballroom .

Just saying , looks like some couples are looking for something different

its your business at the end of the day what you spend your money on, if you want to put a lot of money into a big wedding well then thats completely your concern, whether you have 300 or 3 people at your wedding, its no ones business only your own.

when it comes to weddings there will always be people who have opinions, one thing for sure is that you cant please everyone- but you can please yourself, best of luck!

endacl

Well that's the internet told....

I take back everything I never said about your wedding OP. I promise to never not say those things about your wedding again.

Seriously.

Toots

Different strokes for different folks, OP if you want to belittle people who have "unique, intimate weddings" I suggest you get a blog, because you can't do it here.