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  • 09-08-2013 4:42am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm a 23 year old guy. I'm overweight and don't have a great am mount of self esteem. I'm a student nurse and so am constantly surrounded by women.

    I don't have any problems talking to girls on a day to day basis and am extremely outgoing. I have many female friends who speak nothing but good things about me. However none would date me at the same time.

    I had a 2 year relationship with a beautiful girl however she was extremely self centred and always had to be right. I decided that I wasn't going to stick with her because she honestly made me want to make excuses to avoid spending time with her.

    However I do wish to meet someone as its been two years and I've been hopeless in the relationship department. I'm not a big drinker and am very laid back. So I don't spend much time in clubs etc. I have a terrible time approaching girls in this situation and was with my previous girlfriend because she presued me.

    This alongside long working hours leaves me struggling to meet any interested women. I've considered Internet dating but many particpents seem to be on the older side. I'd love to be able to meet someone my age who wants to travel etc.

    Any ideas how I could change my fortunes.


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  • #2
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    OP - for online dating advice you can apply for access to the OD forum by following this thread.


  • #3
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Well young man you can increase your self esteem.

    If you start to eat better and work out you will become more confident. This will naturally make you more attractive to a lot of women - most women I know love confidence in a man!

    Looking after your weight is one way to actually give you a confidence boost and is more effective than using drink, etc.

    Look into the online meet ups.

    Think of all of your positive attributes - educated, hard working and friendly are three that come to my mind from your post.

    That's a great place to start. Weight can change, confidence can come.


  • #4
    Pretty Polly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 750 ✭✭✭Pretty Polly


    You could try www.meetup.com

    As for online dating, I think there are a lot of people our own age trying it (im 24). I just look at it as being another way of meeting people.


  • #5
    heretochat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 533 ✭✭✭heretochat


    Like yourself I have suffered in the past from low self-esteem, not being happy with how I looked, feeling I had little to offer women etc.

    As other posters have said it is all about building up your confidence.. I was lucky in that I had a good group of friends who were a great help in this regard.

    I would still be quite shy and not an overly outgoing person but that is just a trait as I see it now. I discovered my own self worth through working hard, achieving little things and treasuring them.. Also through involvment in group activities I became more sociably adept..

    So work on those small things and use your friends if needs be.. Good luck..


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