Ex has blocked me on Facebook!

scarymoon1

So my ex whom I broke up with badly a year and a half ago contacted me out of the blue last week. We hadn't spoken once in the past year and a half. He sent a message on Facebook last week asking how I was and that he was thinking about me, saying he hoped I was ok and that he's alot older and wiser now and that at the time we were going out he couldn't handle it! He then asked me meet for a catch up sometime and I agreed. I just happened to look at his Facebook today and he's blocked me! WTF! He's obviously regretted getting in touch again but to block me is a bit extreme! I had no intention of contacting him! Anyone any ideas why he'd have the cheek to come back in my life again asking to meet up and then just randomly block me?? Is he trying to mess with my head on purpose??!

wirelessdude01

Gonna guess he wanted to see what you would say to meeting up(ego boast). He more than likely has another girl and was afraid of his life that you would post something publicly on his page.

scarymoon1

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

Gonna guess he wanted to see what you would say to meeting up(ego boast). He more than likely has another girl and was afraid of his life that you would post something publicly on his page.

An ego boost?! If that's true then what a sap he is! Oh and I wasn't friends with him on Facebook, he sent me a private message so I couldn't have posted on his page even if I wanted to

wirelessdude01

scarymoon1 wrote: »

An ego boost?! If that's true then what a sap he is! Oh and I wasn't friends with him on Facebook, he sent me a private message so I couldn't have posted on his page even if I wanted to

Unless he had the settings changed from the default then yes you could have posted on his page. No way you can post now that he blocked ya. And yes there are plebs who like the auld ego boast.

Take it as a lucky getaway from him!!

Boombastic

His girlfriend found out he was messaging you wanting to meet up

wirelessdude01

Boombastic wrote: »

His girlfriend found out he was messaging you wanting to meet up

More than likely.

scarymoon1

Im so annoyed I agreed to meet up with him now. I should have told him where to go.

MARTYRYAN

What time were the messages sent at?
Is there a chance that he could have been feeling wistful after a few drinks and regretted it later for some reason? Perhaps he has a girlfriend now and doesnt want her to know he was messaging his ex

wirelessdude01

scarymoon1 wrote: »

Im so annoyed I agreed to meet up with him now. I should have told him where to go.

He chanced his arm, possibly got an answer he wasn't expecting and then either he was caught by the girlfriend or got cold feel incase he would be caught by the girlfriend.

Anahita

Sounds like he wanted his ego stroked and then woke up to the reality of it and wanted the chance to put you into your box by blocking you and making you look like the one who was hangin out waiting for him. i also can see the girlfriend scenario.

scarymoon1

He could have been drinking actually, it was ten at night he sent the message, I replied around 11 and a few messages went back and forth, then he sent another around 1! I replied the next day and he did too! I duno, like what a drama queen blocking me!

IrishEyes19

I wouldn't even go as far as him having a gf who found out. I'd say he regretted it, and chickened it, immature for sure, but I reckon that's it.

Don't beat yourself up for saying you would meet up. You don't look weak or silly. If anything you acted maturely, exchanged a few messages and agreed to meet up. You didnt throw yourself at him or act dramatic. The issue is him, not you. I just think it was mean of him to stir the pot once more when he had no intention of acting decently. Dont break a sweat over it. But if he contacts you next time, I wouldnt be so quick to reply to him again.

scarymoon1

IrishEyes19 wrote: »

I wouldn't even go as far as him having a gf who found out. I'd say he regretted it, and chickened it, immature for sure, but I reckon that's it.

Don't beat yourself up for saying you would meet up. You don't look weak or silly. If anything you acted maturely, exchanged a few messages and agreed to meet up. You didnt throw yourself at him or act dramatic. The issue is him, not you. I just think it was mean of him to stir the pot once more when he had no intention of acting decently. Dont break a sweat over it. But if he contacts you next time, I wouldnt be so quick to reply to him again.

Yeah I'd say he regretted it alright, you'd think though he'd have thought it through before contacting me after a year and a half. Just goes to show he's still indecisive and doesn't know what he wants! He should have just left it alone. I hadn't thought about him in months and months, yet he decided on a whim to ask me out for a drink and a catch up and then just bail on it. Just goes to show how little he thought of me!

You have to be joking me, he has just unblocked me! What is he playing at! I hope he asks to meet up again and il be like 'NO'!! Hope he's not a reader of boards

blatantrereg

Can you block individuals on Facebook? I thought you could only set it so that you don't see them. Think I even received messages from someone who was blocked, though I could be wrong on that one.
My understanding is that you can set permissions for your friends and for everyone. If the profile isn't showing up at all then they probably closed their account - inasmuch as facebook lets you do that at least.

Stavro Mueller

What you should do now is block him on Facebook and end this now. Also if you've got a smartphone, block his number so he can't call or text you. You're going to drive yourself around the twist if you obsess about him blocking/unblocking you and what he's up to. It's over and he should be left where he is. In the past.

IrishEyes19

scarymoon1 wrote: »

Yeah I'd say he regretted it alright, you'd think though he'd have thought it through before contacting me after a year and a half. Just goes to show he's still indecisive and doesn't know what he wants! He should have just left it alone. I hadn't thought about him in months and months, yet he decided on a whim to ask me out for a drink and a catch up and then just bail on it. Just goes to show how little he thought of me!

You have to be joking me, he has just unblocked me! What is he playing at! I hope he asks to meet up again and il be like 'NO'!! Hope he's not a reader of boards

If I were you, block him. You said the relationship ended badly, was that on his part and do you really trust this guy with your feelings. He has already started the silliness of blocking you and unblocking you. It's really not a case of what he wants. I think he knows exactly what he wants. Possibly a go to person when he's feeling in the mood. Now I know it seems harsh, but its only because I've been there. Could mirror your story word for word. Relationships ends badly, gets back in touch after months, wants to meet up and bails out beforehand with not replying, or changing their mind suddenly and to my shame, OP, it happened more than once with the same person. I learnt my lesson but I was the loser in the end because it was no skin of their nose doing this and it really hurt me. So I had to be tough on myself, and block, delete, move on with my life.

So rid yourself of these type of people. Now his intentions may be sincere, but do you really want to meet up with this guy? How hard was it to move on when you broke up and do you really want to go back there. I just think if this guy was sincere, a phone call or a sincere talk would be more appropriate for someone who "has changed"

this facebook blocking crack is childish and I wouldnt be hanging around waiting for a chance to say NO to him. I'd just block him and get on with your life. Go forward!

heretochat

I think the whole thing is simple - he is playing with you and trying to make you dance like a puppet on a string..

Have no more to do with him..

End of sermon..

scarymoon1

If I block him will it make me look like I'm still bothered by him?'

strobe

Wouldn't necesarrily think he was playingmind games or anything so sinister. People text or facebooks message or whatsapp or whatever ex's all the time and then regret it.

Chances are that's what this is, he was pining for you a bit, maybe had a couple of drinks, so facebooked you, then realised it was a stupid idea and blocked you so he wouldn't do it again.

Prob feels bad bout blocking you now so undid that.

No need to make it into a big deal. But if you've no interest theb like other people said, just block him.

BunShopVoyeur.

blatantrereg wrote: »

Can you block individuals on Facebook? I thought you could only set it so that you don't see them. Think I even received messages from someone who was blocked, though I could be wrong on that one.
My understanding is that you can set permissions for your friends and for everyone. If the profile isn't showing up at all then they probably closed their account - inasmuch the as facebook lets you do that at least.

You can absolutely block individuals.

You no longer appear on any search for your profile.

wirelessdude01

scarymoon1 wrote: »

If I block him will it make me look like I'm still bothered by him?'

Well at least then he can't be acting the maggot towards you. Block his sorry ass.

Stavro Mueller

Would hoping he gets back in contact just so you can say "No" not show that you're bothered by it too?

No, blocking him on Facebook is the best way to resolve this. It's simple, effective and will stop you saying something you'll regret. It's not good for you that you're now finding yourself watching Facebook to see if you're currently blocked or unblocked. Honestly, what's that going to achieve?

scarymoon1

Right so I've blocked him. It didn't feel nice doing it but he had no problem doing it to me! I'm too soft!

Chucky the tree

scarymoon1 wrote: »

If I block him will it make me look like I'm still bothered by him?'

Yes. It looks like petty revenge on your part.

scarymoon1

Chucky the tree wrote: »

Yes. It looks like petty revenge on your part.

Ok so I've unblocked him as I think blocking people is very dramatic! I sent him a message saying I went to send him a message yesterday and noticed I was blocked! It brought me right back to when we broke up and it wasn't good, I said I'd prefer to leave the catch up and to forget about it all and that he probably understood, then I said take care and goodbye.

That covers it. I left it on a good note and can forget about it all again

Yellow121

scarymoon1 wrote: »

Ok so I've unblocked him as I think blocking people is very dramatic! I sent him a message saying I went to send him a message yesterday and noticed I was blocked! It brought me right back to when we broke up and it wasn't good, I said I'd prefer to leave the catch up and to forget about it all and that he probably understood, then I said take care and goodbye.

That covers it. I left it on a good note and can forget about it all again

As long as you're happy Moon, that's the main thing. You've done what's best to put your mind at ease while still putting an end to things. Move on with your life now, you deserve better.
Well done.

Anahita

Woah be with the times before the internet, email, mobile phones... when you had to be a prick to someone's face and not to a keyboard. (said in a granny voice)

You're better off out of it sounds like!

IrishEyes19

scarymoon1 wrote: »

If I block him will it make me look like I'm still bothered by him?'

you see the point is it doesnt matter what you look like to him, because the point of blocking them is never to have anything to do with them again. So it doesn't matter what he thinks. Do you know what I mean?

CaraMay

You seem a very willing participant in all this drama. If you were not looking for a reunion why would all this bother you? I honestly have never seen so much analysis of something quite simple - he treated you like crap so stop letting him do it again.

scarymoon1

We had a talk last night and cleared the air. I've no intention of getting back with him but friends maybe

Niamho!

I was going to suggest that maybe he blocked you more for his own sanity. Maybe he's spending a lot of time on your page and decided, if it ended badly that maybe no good could come of it again and maybe if he blocked you it would be his little way of not having to see your information as freely?

scarymoon1

Niamho! wrote: »

I was going to suggest that maybe he blocked you more for his own sanity. Maybe he's spending a lot of time on your page and decided, if it ended badly that maybe no good could come of it again and maybe if he blocked you it would be his little way of not having to see your information as freely?

He said he blocked me because he panicked at having getting in touch and having to talk about what happened. I told him to forget what happened between us, it's in the past, he agreed. We then just chit chatted about our lives now